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writes:Dear readers,Long story short. I've had a crush on this guy for the entire year. Sometimes I think he likes me a lot, and then sometimes I feel like he's given up. Anyways (we were in drama, and we're getting ready for a show--I'm in grade 11 by the way.) My crush is in my class.My genre for my scene is puppetry, and I made my own puppet, and everyone loves it. So today, my crush's scene partner comes over to me and he's like, "Hey, I love your puppet it's awesome!" All of a sudden my crush just walks over grabs my puppet's face and kisses it, and not just a quick kiss--he pretended like he was making out with my puppet.(And at this time, me and his scene partner (who's also my friend) are looking at each other and laughing, because my crush is acting hilarious. And my crush knew I was watching him--I was RIGHT beside him. Anyways, then they both walk away, and I'm just in SHOCK...because my crush has never done anything remotely 'romantic' like that before...even though the kiss was just with the puppet. Afterwards, when our drama class was over, I was getting my bag and so was my crush (our bags were close to each other..) and then all of a sudden he stands up and he's like, "(insert my name), your puppet is really hot." And I heard differently and said, "Odd?" And then he repeated the word hot, while just staring at me. (And might I add...it was funny because my puppet is not even attractive in the slightest--it's an old hag lady with crooked teeth and a wart.I know this sounds absolutely ridiculous, but I'd just like to know--do you think he was purposely trying to see my reaction to him kissing my puppet? It's stupid, but I feel like he wanted some romantic emotions to bubble up from me, inside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2011): Hey girl, it's me again! (2nd anon to answer you before)
I think you're overthinking it a bit. Boys are, once again, shallow creatures! They don't really think about what they do and chances are he's never thought you liked him, so he didn't consider your feelings when he swatted his hand (because someone who just thought of him as a friend wouldn't mind).
Oh man, please don't cry about something so trivial!! It's not like he straight out said "I don't wanna sign it"!
I think once you've been in a relationship and you've like, put yourself in the shoes of the guy, do you understand how guys think. They do not act like the guys from movies, they are quite frankly, stupid and insensitive. Especially at this age. And they don't mean to be.
Maybe he didn't feel well? Or maybe something was on his mind? Try to think of other reasons he did that, instead of just focusing on the worst-case scenario. It was just a swat of a hand! Even when it really seems like a guy dislikes you, it's actually just a guy being a guy!
For example, a couple weeks ago, my crush yelled at me for a dumb reason, and I yelled back and there was a bit of a fight. Then we don't see each other for a week because it's exam time, and when I see him again, he's all smiles like it never happened. And he probably did just forget or something. Guys never mean what they say/do!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear readers,
I'm in need of your help, please. I am crying non stop right now, and I just don't know what to do or think about my crush.
Today was the last day of school (grade 11) and I asked my crush in our drama class to sign my yearbook (which I had already prepared--yearbook and pen at hand) and he said, "Ok, after-- I have to just think of something good to right." So I told him that's fine (getting all excited, because I actually thought that he was going to write something really cute), and walked over to my friends in the classroom. (We had been having a huge party, and then by the end of the class everyone had left except for a couple of people, including my crush.) At the time, my friend had been signing my yearbook, and my crush was sitting at a bench about 6 ft. away from her. He was kind of dazing off, and staring at our direction, so I looked at him and said in a funny way, "You STILL haven't signed my yearbook!" So he made a moan like he was really lazy, and then he's like "Pull me up!" (So I could bring him over to the yearbook.) But instead of walking over to him, I just mimed that I was pulling a rope, and then he pretended to get dragged by the rope. But then he just sits back again, swatting his hand like he's basically saying, 'It's fine...I'll sign it later....' or something. Then all of my guy friends get up and leave for lunch, and my crush follows, and my heart just hurt so much.
I'm sorry if I sound so incredibly juvenile, but I still do really like him, because one minute he'll do something extremely cute and then the next...I don't know. This yearbook situation just hit me hard, because in middle school I had this other crush who was so INCREDIBLY rude to me, and I asked him to sign my yearbook, and he flat out said no. It was basically my first taste of rejection. It was bitter and gross, and I felt so terrible through out that entire day. Anyways, after my crush (in high school/present) DIDN'T end up signing my yearbook today, it just started getting me very, VERY self conscious again. Throughout my entire drama period, I felt so ugly, and I kept asking myself in my head, 'why oh WHY WON'T HE SIGN IT." It just upsets me, because if I wouldn't have reminded him that he needed to sign my yearbook, and if he just would have left-- than that would have been my own problem.
The fact that I reminded him at the end of the period, and he wasn't even BUSY, just made me all the more upset. It's not like I didn't ask him. I'm sorry, but I'm just too upset to be rational. What do you guys think? And why do you think he didn't sign my yearbook?
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (30 May 2011):
 Again we're not mind readers and don't know you or this guy, the ONLY surefire way to find out of he's interested is to ask. If you can't do it yourself, then have your friends do the dirty work and ask him.
I can't really tell if this guy likes you or not, it sounds like it. But then again he could just be naturally flirty. He's definitely immature, that I can tell you.
Look, EVERYBODY gets rejected at some point in their life. Whether it's by the opposite sex, college, job, etc, it doesn't matter; it will happen. Often more than once. So if you're actually between the age of 18-21, you better get used to it now..because you'll face it sooner than you think.
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reader, kiesha1987  +, writes (30 May 2011):
As humans our intuitions never lie, if he loves u u'll feel it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much to both of you--I must agree, that yes, I think he was just being an immature silly guy. But I do have another short story about him:Two days ago, we were in drama class again, and we were all joking around, and I took a pen and drew a line on my guy friend's arm. (And my crush happened to be sitting right beside him.)Then, my crush sticks out his arm and and he's like, "Can you draw me a tattoo?" So I bring his arm onto my lap, and I'm holding his wrist while drawing the dark mark from Harry Potter (HUGE FAN by the way...lol)Anyways, it was so exhilarating, as stupid as that sounds, and then he starts to laugh, claiming that I'm tickling him too much with the pen. So I take the pen away and I say, "Fine--then I won't draw it." To which I was expecting him to give up and end the conversation, but he completely surprised me by saying, "No please-finish drawing it!" So he gave me his arm back and I finish the tattoo. Anyways, afterwards, he kept talking to our guy friend saying how awesome and 'bad ass' the tattoo made him look, and he kept stealing glances at me, and we smiled at each other a lot. P.S. We have a huge mirror in our drama room, and I looked at him, and noticed that while he was sitting down, he was just fixing his hair a bit..(and no--it wasn't in a womanly fashion..he just looked really self conscious and cute.) I know I sound like I'm just trying to get you all to say "Yes, he for sure likes you..." but I get so confused sometimes, because there are days when I think he really, really likes me--and then there are days when he doesn't even look at me, and I come home crying. Although my friend once told me that whenever he doesn't talk to me, just think about how sometimes I don't talk to him, because I'm far too shy and scared of rejection...so there's a possibility that that's what he might be feeling. What do you guys think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2011): I agree with tennisstar. He was just being silly and immature. Nothing truly romantic. He probably just wanted to get you guys to laugh. And when he said your puppet was hot, that was probably just a joke too. Don't think too much into things like this. Boys are shallow creatures who are oblivious and when they wanna send signals, it's super obvious and clumsy in a way, not like this.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 May 2011):
Making out with a puppet is romantic? Sorry, but not the least bit. Your crush was just being immature and rather odd by frenching your ugly puppet. I really don't think he was indirectly trying to tell you he's interested. Why make out with your puppet then? Why not you? (Not in school of course, but perhaps afterwards). Anyways, since no one on here is a mind reader, and don't know this guy...it's best that you let him know you're interested in him. Then take it from there.
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