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writes:Hi everyone, okay so here is my story/question. On New years Eve I was hanging out with my "best friend" and my boyfriend and my boyfriend's best friend. We were all drinking and having a good time. I went in the other room to do something, and came back and everything seemed normal. About a month later I found out that my boyfriend had kissed my "best friend". Everyone knew what had happened except for me, and no one bothered to tell me. I only found out because I confronted my best friend because there was a rumor going around about it (which my boyfriend denied). She confirmed it and I confronted my boyfriend about it and he admitted to it as well. I was crushed. I dropped my "best friend" but kept my boyfriend. If he cheats again I will break up with him. I'm in love with him, but what I am going through right now is very hard to deal with. I constantly think about it, replay it, wonder why, cry, etc. For those of you who have been truly in love you know why I couldn't let him go. My question is, does this get easier? and how do I trust him again after that? please help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 February 2011):
 Yeah I understand that, but maybe she didnt want to hurt you, he was the one that done it so he should have been the one to come forward and tell you he made a mistake. Just be careful thats all am saying there might be some day you will need your friend and it will be to late then.
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reader, MariahE +, writes (18 February 2011):
MariahE is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell the reason I dropped her was because she knew about everything and didn't come forward and let me know. So I figure what kind of friend is that? I have talked to my boyfriend and he says he is willing to do whatever it takes to earn my trust back.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (18 February 2011):
Well first off you say that he kissed your best friend? If he was the one that kissed her then why does she get dropped? I know that you are in love with him and that is fair enough but am sure if she was your best friend then she should deserve a second chance as well, especially if he was the one that kissed her. Put yourself in her shoes she must be hurting a lot as she has lost you and it was your boyfriend that kissed her. Not the other way around. I would totally understand if she came on to him. But I think you should give her a second chance as well.
Ok as for getting over this. Well you need to talk to your boyfriend about it and ask him straight why he done it. Tell him you want the truth if this relationship is going to work out because you need closure. Also he needs to work hard to earn your trust back and show you how much he loves you. He should be willing to do this if he loves you. Also time will help to earn the trust back. Goodluck hunny.
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