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*illow979
writes:I separated from my ex 6 months ago and we have a 2 yr old Son together. Since our separation I've got myself back into my pre-baby weight, been doing great at college, dating and generally getting my confidence back.The other night I went out with a group of close friends to celebrate my bday, and afterwards a few people came back to mine. The others left and it was just myself and a good male friend of mine left.About 4 years ago, this friend and I had I guess what you would call a friendship of convenience and always ended up hooking up together. We are attracted to each other, and always quite flirty but it sort of fizzled out then after we spent a prolonged time away with each other on holiday. To complicate things more I'm close friends with his sister ad well as our shared group of friendsWell I guess u an see where this is going - once everyone left the other day, her asked mr to cuddle with him - I told him we'd done this before - but we both ended up having a snuggle in bed, catching some zzz's and eventually getting a bit touchy geeky which led to quite lazy hungover sex. I enjoyed it because it felt familiar and we are such good friends that we can have a giggle together. We decided to keep it to ourselves, but he contacted me the other day going on about his sister asking him about us and him telling me to get my story straight. I don't see what the big point of the denial is as everyone can put two and two together given our past. I wo deer if he is embarrassed by getting with me again abuse my body is not the same as it was and now feel embarrasses to face it again although I'm sure it will be fine. I feel like messaging and telling him it was all a big mistake, but that might make it worse? I don't know if we're gonna end up in the same pattern we followed before as friends with benefits but things are different now and I doubt it. So confused and full of regret. Didn't feel weird about it till today, 4 days later - maybe I'm just overthinking it. I enjoyed it, but it also made me feel lonely as I miss that intimacy with someone I know well, can laugh with and have sex with. Any advice appreciated.
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reader, Willow979 +, writes (18 February 2011):
Willow979 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust want to add that I have no intention
of starting any kind of romantic relationship with him & am going to avoid getting into the same situation again as it's too complicated and every time I sleep with someone it just reinforces how lonely I feel. I worry that as a single mum I'm never going to have that intimacy again...and it's sad.
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