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writes:I'm 18 (soon to be 19) and he just turned 23 a few weeks ago. I've known him since january 2011, but we lost contact for a couple months but started talking again, he asked to see me and we got on well and he kissed me.He's mature, humble, genuine, direct/upfront/straightforward. He has already told me stuff about his past. When he kissed me he told me beforehand that he wanted to, so it happened once when I was sitting with him and once again when we said goodbye.He's told me he wants to see me again and believes that I'm a genuine girl. He's also told me he likes to keep his options open as he has been hurt in the past, I was iffy with this at first but at the same time, when I spoke to my friends and my friends older siblings who are his age, they all told me to go with the flow and carry on talking to him to see where things go cause many people have options and I respected him for telling me instead of leading me to believe I'm the only one in his life.So the second time we met up, we just went to eat and then sat in the park, we were talking about life in general but he didn't make any moves, he didn't try and kiss me, he just gave me a hug as he was saying goodbye.I'm quite shy so I didn't want to make a move incase he didnt want to reciprocate the kiss back, so I just held out.But I'm trying to figure out why he would kiss me on the first time and not the second. He seems interested cause he's told me that the next time we meet, he's going to come to my area to see me because I made the effort to go to his area twice.He's really nice, we have similar likes and dislikes but he's very experienced, and I'm totally inexperienced as I haven't even had a boyfriend before, so I'm sort of confused about what happened...s
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): Ask yourself this:
Does he live far away?
Do you know what he means by when he says wants to keep his options open?
All these questions you can ask yourself. I would just keep in mind that whether or not he ends up liking you he should only like you for who you are and not what you can be so don't try to push yourself to be someone else. If he ends up just wanting to be friends know inside that there are other fish in the sea and maybe it was meant to be. If he ends up liking you just keep an open mind, trust your instincts and go with the flow like your friends said to do. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): Don't be afraid to express your emotions. If a guy is really into you, he'll appreciate your openness. He may be messing with your head (which explains why you are writing about it on dearcupid) or he's just not that into you.
EIther way, I suggest this, be open with your feelings with him and see how he feels. Yeah you may get bit in the ass, but atleast you wont have to waste anymore time thinking about it.
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