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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone my fwb who I met 6 months ago gets jealous if he sees me talking to another man or if anyone whistles at me but he is always saying he doesn't want to be with me what can that mean I would really like to be with him properly and he knows this like for instance I was out with my friends a few weeks ago and he seemed like he didn't want me texting him so I stopped and the next day he asked me if I had met someone while I was out and I asked him why he got jealous if he didn't want to be with me n he just said its how he is what do you think he is feeling for me? Does it sound like he wants more he has also just suggested we go out one night together which he has never mentioned before any ideas why he is acting like this would be greatly appreciated thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2011): He is telling you how he wants things to work, which is that he gets exclusive rights over you without committing to you.
If you don't like it then walk away.
If you don't walk away then don't complain about it.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (23 September 2011):
 He's struggling with two concepts....One, is that he's gotten you to put out for him... so his "primative" brain is being satisfied.... He's getting sex!!! (This primative brain is NOT "that little, lower brain" that your girls often mention!!!!!)The other, is that decent men, who are having sex with a woman, frequently form an attachment to them (and the woman to the man).... It's an old concept which goes back to the days of Mastadons and Saber-toothed tigers... wherein people partnered together for safety and to procreate..... It's rooted in a portion of the brain which has been largely responsible for the improvement of the species, and, which portion has brought about language, mathmatics, logic and other sciences....Traditional FWB arrangements only work when BOTH partners can remain satisfied with the "One" that I noted above. In your case, it looks like your FWB has slipped in to "the other" category....You have to decide..... stay, or go?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): Hes jealous because hes scared that once you find a real man he will lose his casual sex. Thats all. You`re his sex ticket and he doesnt want another guy swooping in and taking his hassle free sex away. He doesnt want to be with you and he probably never will. I suggest accepting it will always only be fwb or moving on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): You are convenient and very available for sex so if you meet someone else, you wouldn't be as accessible to him. He means it when he says he doesn't want more and if it only costs him one night out to keep you tied to him, why wouldn't he?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): I hate to say it but this guy it toying with you. It is rare that a man will take a girl he's just been having casual sex with and make her his girlfriend and fall in love with her. He is playing jealousy because he likes the attention you give him when he acts that way. Don't fall for his traps.It's clear you have some feelings for him but I'm almost positive he doesn't feel the same way. And its nothing to do with you personally. But men immediately separate women in two categories: datable and non-datable. Unfortunately you are in the wrong category.Next time you like a guy and want an exclusive relationship, don't sleep with him until you are 100% positive he wants the same. I know this because I've tried to date a fwb guy and he basically told me what I'm telling you. Dump him and find a real man!
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