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anonymous
writes:So i've been seeing this guy for about two months and was hoping things would start getting more serious. I really like him, but I found out that last weekend he kissed another girl at a party. what do i do? I havent yet confronted him. Reply to this Question
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reader, stina  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 (BTW - after reading your post, I figured you guys were in an open relationship at this point. But if you're only supposed to be seeing each other - like the last two posters implied - then by all means you should confront him about it! And throw the brownie idea out the window. Have a heart to heart talk with him instead and get out all of what you've been feeling and ask all of the questions you have on your mind, then invite him to do the same.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): Talk to him and ask him just what is going on. If he is with you then he shouldnt be kissing other girl, sorry, but i would be bloody annoyed about that. You are either with him or not but he has to know that this is not acceptable.
take care
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reader, down to earth +, writes (15 October 2007):
 Personally i think you should confronted him because if you and him are going out he shouldnt be thinking of kissin other girls,you should be enough because if you let this go wot might he try next tym. x xx x
let me kno wot happend
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reader, stina +, writes (15 October 2007):
One other thing that I thought of that worked for one of my friends...when she was going after her man, she made him brownies and cookies on a couple of occasions and told him that she made them for him and his friends. (She stacked them in a pyramid shape and attached a little boat at the top - he is the captain of a ferry.) Anyway, he thought it was really sweet and was really impressed that she went through all of that trouble for him AND for his friends. She scored points with him AND points with his friends - which can also help! Now she is in a relationship with him and is friends with all of his buddies and has a blast going out with them altogether. (She did more than baking things, though. This is just one more idea that I thought I'd throw your way.) ^_^
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reader, stina +, writes (15 October 2007):
Hi Anonymous,
Everyone's different, but this is what I would do:
Grab him up while you can! When I first started seeing my now-husband, he was starting to date some other girl, too. I put a stop to that asap! I asked to see him more frequently, actually was involved in what he liked (going to shows, etc.), treated him like he was the best guy in the world (made him sweet/cute cards for no reason, etc.), told him how I felt about him, asked him where he saw our relationship going and then finally told him that I wanted to be in an exclusive relationship.
I don't think that you should mention anything about the other girl. If you do that, he may think that you are jealous. Jealousy is not a trait that anyone wants in their potential partner, but CONFIDENCE is. ^_^ You don't want to make it seem like you're "competing" to get him, but rather that you want to be with him because you think he is a perfect match for you: tell him why you like him!
If he ends up not wanting to be in a committed relationship after this, then at least you know where things stand.
Hope this helps! Take care.
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