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writes: first of all, i want to thank those who answered my question coz i could assure u i took all ur opinions into consideration!!xx now i hav another prob!(surprisingly enough)...i told my bf how i feel about wanting to be single and he didnt take it too bad at first. he respected my decision and understood that the relationship cant progress if these doubts keep coming to me. thing is the following day, he wanted to meet,and the next,and the next!!i dnt think he could take in the news.i really love him still obviously and he is making things so hard!:( he keeps telling me dat he needs attention from someone because this is gonna be easier for me since his friends are mine and they are closer to me than to him.he feels alone.plus some guys have asked me out already and he is feeling really pissed off at that and i understand but its not my fault i didnt ask them to!!is it ok for me to have him as a friend when our feelings r still strong? and i told him dat even tho we broke up,i still feel like im in a relationship coz he cant stand d thought of me with another guy(which i assured him wont happen anytime soon!) and he keeps wanting to see me!i dnt know what to do im so confused.do me a favour and help me again!! pls,i dnt know u,but ur opinion means loadz!thanks xxx
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reader, I Waited For The One  +, writes (7 January 2007):
 friendship after a r-ship can be hard but only if u make it hard. me & my ex get on like an house on fire we laff joke. and we r like best mates 3 week's i've been apart from my ex now and u know what? i'm happy she's my friend. help's me get over her.
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reader, jabey +, writes (7 January 2007):
Why if you love him do you not want to be with him? Never sure bout that one !! But well that you choose to be on your own for a while tells me you must have doubts bout your relationship with him. So the fairest thing to him would be to tell him you need space, proper space maybe a month of no or very little contact. That way it will help him get used to not having you around and then if you decide you dont want to go back to him it will be easier for him. Also if after the month you really miss him and feel you want to rekindle the relationship then you will be sure. I feel as hard as it is that maybe you are keeping him there for a bit of security, but that is harder on him. In all fairness he should really walk away and leave you to decide what you want. Being friends with someone so soon after a relationship is really very hard when intense emotions are involved, I think youcan only be true friends when you both dont have those intense emotions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): i think this guy doesnt want to let go of you in a loving way, so now he is trying to be with you as a friend. if it was me i would go back out with him, but i get that u wanna stay single. just tell this guy to give u a bit of space for a bit and breathe. u can still b good friends and after ur timeout maybe u cud start again. but b really gentle through all of this coz u dont wanna hurt his feelings. trust me, i know
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reader, I Waited For The One +, writes (7 January 2007):
wow your ex seem's a bit full on.
it's like me when my ex dumped me i wanted to see her everyday. but i got the idea soon enought that if i see her it's gonna be hard.
u need to say - listen we can be friend's (yes it's ok 2 be friends) but our r-ship is over if u can't handle that then we souldn't be friend's. u get what i'm saying?
it's gonna be hard for the both of u because of all the friend's u have r friend's of u both.
i say don't hold back if u find a new guy don't go " i'm worried he will not agree " y sould u care? do u think he will care if the shoe was on the other foot?
yes u still love your ex. but all because u love him don't mean u have 2 do what he say's.
if he get's pissed at you again turn around and say don't get pissed at me for moveing on that's the fact of life.
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