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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend keeps having emotional breakdowns and I don't know if I should leave him or not. I have only been dating him for a month and he was fine until this week. I know it upsets him because he still has feelings for his ex and they have a kid together. He messed things up with her and I know he regrets it now and his ex has moved on and has a boyfriend and stuff now. They broke up about nine months ago and have one kid together. Last week he got all upset and thought because I didn't answer a text from him I was with another guy. Then last night he got mad at me because I checked my emails on this dating site we met on. I only did this because this guy from the site was going to come meet me in the summer, so I was telling him I met someone else. I told my boyfriend I wasn't hiding anything and gave him my password and told him to go read my emails and see. He wouldn't read my emails and after texting for like an hour he apologizied and said he was having an emotional breakdown and was sorry. Then we told me he was just going to bed. I know if I see him he will act like nothing happened and things will be fine between us again. I really like this guy and want things to work out, but don't know what to do about his emotional problems. I don't know if he will get over his ex. Should I stick around and see if this relationship will work or should I just move on?
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reader, u no u want me coz ive got katies wedding dress  +, writes (10 April 2010):
the best thing to do is stand by him he oversly trusts u or he wud of checked ur emails i no its best to stand by um coz i did mine when he broke down coz his sister dint tell him she was pegnant but she lost it i told him the first 12 weeks are the most important and she cud lose it and the next day she lost it but he now realises that some things are worth the wait and im here to help
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (10 April 2010):
 I think you should take a step back and perhaps let him find who he is for a while. It sounds like he has a lot to think about, especially who he is and where his confidence went. I think that right now, he doesn't have the tools to offer a complete and whole person for a happy relationship. It's not fair to the both of you to have one stable person contributing and helping a person who is a little broken so early on.
So I would just perhaps sit him down and say that you think that he needs some time to recover from his last relationship, and that you two can definitely continue to talk and maybe eventually go on dates again. That way you have a chance to see him when he's in his prime! And he can fully enjoy being with you if that's what he really wants. The first few months should be happy and exciting, not full of jealousy and confusion. There is always the future, and it would just be best for him to have some time. Best of luck to you. :)
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