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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Although i haven't seen the man i used to date last year, for nearly 2 months, i can't stop thinking of him. He is always in my mind and i wonder what he is doing. I have decided not to call him any more but he calls me some times, not often. Sometimes he says to me to go out together but doesn't actually arrange anything. When he suggests me things i accept them and i don't be negative as there isn't a definite arrangement and so it doesn't really matter to be polite to him. I always think to not accept his proposal if he suggests me to go out with him definitely. As he uses to ...disappear for a lot of time during the week and he appears really suddenly. Although these negative things about a real relationship, i still thinking about him. Is there a possibility that he will come back but with positive thinking about us? How can i really try this? Should i ignore him and not accepting to go out with him? Should i tell him once more what i want? What can i really do to be with him? Reply to this Question
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female
reader, Elisa  +, writes (26 March 2009):
First of all im sorry to hear of your dilemma. It seems that this gentleman is using you to his own advantage, it may be that he doesn't know exactly what he wants, he may want you one minuet but not the next. I think you should sit him down the next time you see him and explain how you feel, if he says he feels the same then start a slow progressing relationship, don't rush in too soon or seem too eager this will only end up in tears if you do rush into things. If however he says he doesn't feel the same then my advice to you is to forget him and try and move on, i'm sure you are a good looking women and there are plently of nice people out there no matter what people may think. As for him positive thinking, i think from the nature of his behaviour he may never be completely positive about your realtionship as he comes and goes as he pleases. Other than the above there is not much more you can do to be with him, if he doesn't want you then you must try and accept that its his loss and find someone who truly deserves you.
My thoughts are with you Elisa
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