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reader, misty +, writes (20 April 2005):
Has he got a reason to be worrying?If not, then say he will have if it goes on, cos it's driving you mad.And if he loves you for you then he should know that you truly do.If you have not been together long then he's more than likely afraid he will end up getting hurt.All you can do is keep saying Yes, sure I do.Just put up with it; I think he will stop in the end.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2005): He sounds like he's insecure. That could be purely his problem - for example, if he is recently out of a relationship where his girlfriend didn't treat him well - or it could be that you may be acting in ways that trigger that response in him.Think about what you were doing just before he asks you that question. Was there some physical contact you rejected? Was he silent and thoughtful for a long time? Did you say something snappish? Be aware that things that you do and say can cue him to respond in an insecure way, depending on his personality. and try to be conscious of his feelings. However, if you're sure that you're not doing anything that puts him on the defensive, then the next time he asks (assuming you do love him) reassure him and ask him about it. Ask him if there's anything that's bothering him, because he wants you to say those words at a rate that seems quite a lot to you.Just be kind about it. He will probably get over that concern in time.
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