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writes: This confuses me, so good luck potential advice givers. I've been in my relationship three years now, and I've overcome a lot. But, to the more recent issue, he has a bad online addiction to MMO RPGs. He used to be so hooked on WOW that he turned down my attempts to romance him, he was on at least fourteen hours of the day, and every night I went to bed alone and depressed. He role played sex with denizens of this attrocious game (I've played it to try and spend time with him, it sucks), and even that I overlooked. I try to keep an open mind. He even spent a lot of money on Wrath of the Lich King when we were going through really hard financial problems, and didn't have a scrap of food in the house! Missappropriated priorities, I know. I comprimised, told him that he could still play, just to log off from time to time to at least acknowledge me. After a long arduous fight with that cursed game, I thought we were over it, with better times ahead. But sadly, I was dead wrong. He goes onto this online furry site and constantly is chatting with others and role playing what they call 'yiffing', known more commonly to those rooted in reality as 'sex'. One girl from the site got a cat scratch and wanted him to call her to check on her, and he called her on my cell phone! He barely knows her! -Sorry, had to get that rant outta the way. Back to the issue, he's been spending all his time online either in this chat or on City of Heroes. He even wants to spend a whole $20 on two booster packs, and we're again in a bit of a temporary financial bind thanks to crappy jobs and replacing a car battery (set us back more than anticipated). I feel he's losing interest, and I've done everything I thought I was supposed to. I kept an open mind, agreed to try an open relationship cause monogamy is apparently too hard of a concept for him to grasp (venting again), but it doesn't seem to work. He just wants to play online games. I don't know what to do, and I'm lonely. Trust me, there's more, but I just want help with this one right now. Please, any advice would be helpful.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 April 2009):
 What you need to do is grow up. Stop trying to play house with a boy who doesn't want to. You are no longer a little kid, you can't force you the neighbours kid to be daddy because your growth spurt makes you bigger then him.
He does NOT want to play house with you, he wants to play games. His choice. You find that childish, your opinion but of little relevance.
You can't make someone else life the life you want for them.
Might I also suggest that if you are having such difficulty making ends meet with TWO jobs that 20 dollars is an issue, then there are bigger problems.
Oh, there are aren't there. While he doesn't spend time with you because of games, he does apperently have enough time to sleep with other women?
Your lonely, kick him out and get a pet. Costs less and pay you more attention and that way the money you own goes to your life and not some guy who wants to pretend the real world isn't there.
If you want to raise a kid, visit a sperm bank. Don't try to date one.
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reader, Neboraic  +, writes (29 April 2009):
Stop bothering. Make no effort for a few days, see if you get any attention. If not then you have nothing to lose by leaving him. The relationship ended a long time ago.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009): And i love the marketing that puts an advert for an MMORPG on the header of the page - bit like rubbing salt into the wounds.
yes dump him is my advice. Go find someone who wants to spend time with you, not in disneyland. You deserve better.
You have so much going for you.
I know thats not overlly helpful and i should be saying things like find an addiction clinic or talk to him, but... ask yourself if he is worth the effort that will take?
if you think so, then please post about it - then talk to him. But really i think you are just a conveneance to him.
Star.x.
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