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writes:So I've been dating my guy for 8months now, but we've known each other for years as good friends. im 26 and hes 30. We both work. Lately he has been talking about taking me to see his family and talking rings and marriage and I love him but since this talk I feel like he's finding faults in me and always trying to bring arguments and I hate that. He says my mum has some good quality so I should learn from her wtf? I don't know, but I feel like lately I can't do anything right and he never says sorry, I feel like I'm the one that always apologies each time we argue because according to him I'm always in the wrong. He use to put credit on my phone for me which he has stopped. The cute texts have also stopped. Even when he texts is not romantic anymore. Just now I was driving and he rang and we were talking and he just said I don't listen to advice and I got angry cause he's stressing me, keeps saying I don't listen to him. I don't know what he wants from me. He's really stressing me out now, he's not fun to be around anymore he just wants to argue and never says sorry:( am I overreacting? If I talk to him he will say I'm the one with a problem. But I don't see what I'm doing wrong:( what should I do? Guys please I need advice. Do you think we could have a future? Thanks.x
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 June 2016):
 Talking marriage after 8 months is not a great sign when you are both not getting along with each other, do you even live together? You should think long and hard if this is what you want?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 June 2016):
 Nope, no future. Well, unless you enjoy having no fun and having all these arguments. It's not about who is right and who is wrong. It's about the two of you not being a good match. And talking rings after 8 months? He's not serious. Just look at how he already takes you for granted, cute texts have stopped and now there's only arguments. This man is suffering from the well know male-ego problem: he thinks he has given you all you want just because he was talking rings, so now he wants you to bed over backways and be a "mom" for him and cater to his every need. Like you owe him. Because he talked rings with you.
Let this man go. You don't need a lot of drama, you need good times and a man who is fun to be around and who makes you laugh.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (27 June 2016):
 I agree with Auntie BimBim, but will go one step further, he is taking you 100% for granted now that he has "talked" rings and marriage he is pretty sure you aren't going anywhere.
Dating someone who can not ACCEPT responsibility when wrong (and here I'm seriously doubting that YOU are always wrong) is a bit on the narcissistic spectrum. They can do no wrong... like your BF.
Now your mom MIGHT (without doubt) have some great qualities, but... YOU are not your mom. You have your OWN set of great qualities. It almost feels like he is tearing you down to make you think you have no real worth, and thus can't do better than him.
Think LONG and HARD if this guy (as he is NOW) is someone you can see yourself with long term. Always walking on eggshells and apologizing for stuff you didn't even do wrong, just to keep the "peace".
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (27 June 2016):
 Nope, not over reacting at all. As for the romance and cute texts stopping, he has already got you, bagged his catch so to speak, and feels he no longer has to put out the lures.
If you are not feeling loved and wanted then why stay with him, we are not on this earth to be belittled and unloved, nor to be always in the wrong, or to be told we are the one with a problem.
If he isn't prepared to discuss things, and wants you to carry all the responsibility for making this relationship work then he isn't worth being with.
I suggest you seriously think about what sort of future you will have with him, and if you don't honestly deserve better.
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