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41-50,
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writes:There is a guy, he's become a great friend, I admitted my crush to him and he was sweet about it, but I don't think he ifeels the same crush...but we still goof off, hang out, we had a few disagreements, we made up, we hug text talk on the phone sharing thoughts and dreams. He is I guess my new best friend..Well there is a slight problem, first of all he is SUPER smart, but at times he can be VERY immature, kinda childlike, almost like a mischievous 12 year old? He is a 20 something virgin (I'm not) he doesn't seem to have any mental incapasities, and he doesn't seem Like he is anywhere in the autism spectrum. Also he dresses strange except at work, where I first noticed him in his nice slacks and crisp white shirt, and he looks hot! On his days off tho, He has no style, I mean when I first met him on an off day I seriously thought he was gay! Pink shirt really pink! Abercrombie Pink. Nothing wrong with being gay btw. I bet we'd still be friends. I want to stop crushing on him sometimes...but I can't. A guy asked me out the other day and I refused because I wanted to hang out with my buddy...Ok let me clarify, I still like him despite all his weird jokes and outfits, I can accept it, also I have been telling him he looks gay in pink and he denies he is, then he says he hates my shoes or he doesn't like my old lady car , etc., but we still like each other as friends. But what does my attraction to him say about me???? I am worried About my taste, in guys!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2010): It's because I am under his spell! I regress because of my infatuation with him, I apologize for sounding like a spoil brat. We bonded over a project at work. One day, out of the blue, Without even knowing about my past, He took one look at me and knew something traumatic had happened to me in my past! He upset me when he mentioned it, (he said not all men are jerks, and that I should give some a chance to get to know me, because I am a very interesting person) word for word. Since then he has Become a friend. I am very frosty at work, unapproachable, I don't date, I knit and hang out with my little brother with special needs, that's why I looked for signs in him because he really is a little odd!
Why do I give him my time, when he brushes off my advances, but insists on being my best friend? I want to care for someone besides my family. But it's hard for me to try with anyone but him!
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (7 March 2010):
 My dear you are between 30-35 and you sound like a 12 year old girl! In adult relationships why on Earth would the fact that he wears really pink shirts matter? Try actually getting to know this guy. Stop making this about you too - "what does my attraction to him say about me?" What's up with that?
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