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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have liked this one guy forever and a few months ago he started going out with my best friend even though he liked and still likes me. He has been calling me a lot lately and we are talking about an hour everyday. It has become very obvious that he likes me and I'm starting to really fall for him. I feel really bad about it but I can't stop talking to him because I like him and he is one of my good friends. To make matters worst he is still going out with my best friend and she is in love with him. But he has been talking to me about breaking up with her. What should I do?
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reader, duskyrowe  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 There is a Golden Rule in my book, NEVER date your friend's boyfriends or ex boyfriends come to that.
1. You will lose your friend.
2. How would you react if your Best Friend started dating your man ?
3. Friends are for LIFE, Men just come and go.
4. Finally find a man of your own.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (4 August 2007):
 I know you will probably not want to hear this, BUT, you are not an impartial third party here. You are asking us for advice, but if you were to read the question back to yourself and insert different names - you would be aware of the fine line that you have crossed. You should not be councilling him about her because your own heart is involved. If you really want to look back at this later in life and think - "I did the right thing for two people that I cared about and put my own self interests last; I'm so proud of myself" - what would you do? Life is always challenging us to balance our own set of ethics against our own self-interests (not my own quote). You run the risk of losing both of these friendships. Do you want either of these friendships in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2007): you need to tell your best friend about what has been going on before it gets out of hand. he must not be the best boyfriend if he talks to you like that while he is dating someone.
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reader, crazyone +, writes (4 August 2007):
 Well,if he likes you more than his girlfrined and really wants to break up let him.It's his chioce.At least help do it in a nice way.IF he does don;t go out with him for a long time since you friend is in love.Let her you like him and let her tell you if she's okay with it.
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