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writes:Pls kindly take the time to read through,i'm sorry it's this looong.I've been attending this new church for almost a year and 3 months now with my younger sister and we are always together in church. After about 4 months of attending this church i started noticing this very cute guy, and over time i developed a crush on him and wanted to catch his attention.One day i was sitting three rows behind him. Then he looked back and our eyes meet and he looked away. After that day i tried to catch his eyes several times and i got him there. So every sunday when i go to church i know where he sits regularly now. So i'll sit adjacent to where he is and i'll catch him looking and soon as i look towards him he'll quickly look away. One day while i turned to glance at him i caught him looking and this time he smiled at me. i smiled back but i was too shy to look for long so i quickly looked away.Several times he would walk into my space,look at me when he is talking to his friends,stay behind when i stay and he'll start leaving when i do the same. He slightly brushed his hands against mine when i walked past him one day.I later told my younger sis but she said i was imagining things and that guy wasn't looking at me. She later believed me one day when we were both taking a walk in the evening, she saw him first on a bike and he waved at us, she waved back and poked me to look at him and by the time i looked up to wave back he quickly looked away.When i saw him that sunday he still stared and hurriedly looked away. After the service i just walked past him and his friends and went home but i knew he was staring at me. I got irritated cos i was just expecting him to walk up to me and say hi or something especially since this has been going on for months now.I think about him so much and i keep liking him even deeper .I also thought maybe because i'm never alone, that's why he hasnt come to me.After that day i made up my mind to talk to him first, but i'm so shy, very nervous and i want him to chase me not vice versa but i still made up my mind and i go alone to church then i did not see him again for almost three months!I didn't know anything about him,name,facebook id.Nothing.I would cry several times in my room and pray he'll come back. i hated myself for not letting him know how i feel(i'm surprised also at myself feeling this way about someone i haven't even spoken to).I didn't recognize his friend or i would have asked.I then stylishly asked someone i saw with him but he didn't remember him.I asked a worker in Church and he prayed that God should bring him back(funny isnt it?)but that Sunday he was in Church! As soon as i entered and sat i saw him,after few minutes i caught him staring and he looked away.I was determined to talk to him after the service.So after the service i noticed him standing at the entrance with a guy he wasn't really talking to,so i faked some confidence and walked up to him. As soon as i got to him he turned towards me and i nervously said 'hi,i've not been seeing you around,(playing with my phone but i still managed to look him in the eye and smiled)and then he said 'yes i actually moved away from here to somewhere else(a nearby environment) but he'll be coming around and then he asked for my name,i told him and asked for his too. He told me(it turned out we are from different tribes,didn't matter to me though),then i said you dont look your tribe and he laughed and said,what do you think i am,that ......tribe or....that tribe. I just smiled and then he asked a shocking question,he said something like have we meet before? or i think it's 'do we know each other?.I gave him a questioning look and nodded and he quickly said 'oh church here i guess.I just smiled.He kept quiet,and i just said 'ok bye and he said bye too.Although he was looking at my phone,he didn't ask for my no,he didn't offer to walk me or anything but i was glad and relieved i spoke to him and know his name n where he is,though our conversation seems awkward to me and i was disappointed he didn't ask for my no and pretended he didn't know me.I just thought maybe he didn't want to seem too obvious and he'll ask me for my no the next time we talk.He didn't see him last sun but he was around this sun. i noticed him smile as soon as i got in and later he still stared at me but looked away quickly when i looked back. He left before the service ends,so i didn't get a chance to talk with him.I started to think maybe he wasn't intrested in me,maybe he wants me to chase him,maybe,maybe......It's been almost 10 months now that i've known this guy. i really,really like him and want to be with but i'm confused about him,and want to know if i still have a chance to be with him,does he like me or he is not that into me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much,you've been so helpful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2011): I think, that after 10 months of "being aware" of this guy, if he hasn't asked you out, or pursued the friendship, I think he probably won't do so now. After all, you have made it perfectly obvious that you are interested in him.
You have developed a massive crush on this person, he has had several opportunities to progress things, but hasn't done so.
Not everyone we feel romantically about will necessarily feel the same way about us.
Perhaps he is a very shy person, or perhaps he isn't interested. Either way, you have made it obvious that you are interested in him. Unless you want to appear desperate, or be thought of as chasing him, I suggest you leave it at that.
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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