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writes:Dear Readers, I met this guy Dec 23. I am head over heels for this man, I am 19 and he is 28! He is so established in life, but most of all his is very religous as I am! His words sit in my head, when he touches me I stop breathing, just yesterday he was kissing on me and I almost cried because I love him so much! I know he cares for me but I don't think he is halfaway where I am! He speaks so good, he knows so much, and he takes care of my needs.... at times. lol. The only issue is he knows what he wants, and one thing he wants is a woman who will have sex with him. Not that he pressures me, but when he mentioned it, I knew in my mind I am not ready for that. I just lost my virginity last April and I am not ready to let another person know my body but I don't know should I sacrifice my standards to meet his... for love! I love him to the pit of my soul! Do you think if I explain to him that I love him so much but I'm not ready for sex, and risk losing him for good. or make a sacrifice and just see how far it takes me. I am in love something terrible. I can barely finish this question. I want to keep going, but I told myself I wasn't going to ramble.
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reader, EzraMayweather +, writes (18 February 2009):
EzraMayweather is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you all, basically what you are all saying is...talk to him first, and if he doesnt like what i say....than o well. just dont give it up to him, dont lower my standards to meet his. i guess u are right. god willing, everything will work out! Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): If you aren't ready to sleep with your boyfriend and have any hesitation about it whatsoever, don't do it! Just because you have had sex before DOES NOT mean that you have to sleep with this guy now! If you are not ready, he must respect that. Please don't listen to those who have commented below me. You do not owe him anything, and if he loves you as much as you love him then he should have no trouble waiting for you (whether that is in 2 weeks, 2 years, or until after you are married!)!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): let him know you aren't ready. its your body, and its up to you what you do with it.
if you arent prepared for sexual relations with this guy, then don't.
if he loves you and respects you, he won't try and make you have sex with him, he will wait for you to be ready.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): If you care about him so much I'd talk to him about it. Do not let him change what you want just for him! Don't let your mind fool yourself into changing who you are for him. If you are not comfortable with what he wants and he isn't able to truly hold off for you my advice is to step back and think. The only way to really think clearly is to step outside a situation. So, to recap, firstly talk to him about it and explain that you too have firm ideas of what you want and you just caren't ready to go there yet. Explain that you need to go slow. If you get any hint that he can't do this for you (you begin going too far or being uncomfortable) communicate this to him and step back to let yourself think. If it still doesn't work you'll have to decide what is more important to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): If you are as in love with this man as you say you are (which i think is beautiful!) then you should make love with him. Sex is a very emotional thing and you obviously don't really want it then tell him, and if he still thinks it will enrich your relationship then do it x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): You lost to to someone back April i would expect you to do the same for me as well. If in fact you do love me as much as you say.
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