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writes:Hello Folks,I am curious about how a woman will react to events and mishaps in her engagement and marriage with a shy man.I am talking about a man who is so shy that his parents and brothers/sisters have to speak for him in situations. He is so shy that he is unable to tell anything about himself or his likes/dislikes to his fiance or to-be wife. He is too chicken to call her at her home in the fear that someone else may answer.And I am wondering what kind of a woman would be suitable for such a guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): HiIt's Chatty again,Ok, I will stick to the question.. what woman would be suitable? none! that i know of....sorry.You are not a victim of shyness we have established.You had a bad experience...it would have saved me a lot of time if you had CLEARLY stated your bad experience INSTEAD OF MISLEADING THE READER WAFFLING ON ABOUT SHYNESS. I hope some other aunts or uncles understand your question better than I have.I wish you luck....via con dios.
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reader, PeaceKeeper +, writes (18 February 2009):
PeaceKeeper is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello Chatty,I appreciate your answer and i am glad to know that you have found a way out of your shyness. Good for you! :)But this isnt the answer i am looking for because i am not the victim of shyness neither i am looking for ways to overcome shyness. Please stick to the question because this is very important to me, I have had a bad experience and i need to know what people think about this.Help me out!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2009): A Chatty one...
you need a gal who will bring you out. Also you need to ask your family KINDLY that you would like to try and talk yourself in future....you are making your situation far worse and disabling yourself.
Shyness is hard to live with.....but FACE ALL YOUR FEARS, THINK OF THE WORST OUTCOMES...EVEN INVITE THEM...then find talking a little easier.
I would not suggest a shy girl...or you'll both get nowhere and very bored. I was once a very very shy little girl until 13....hiding behind mummy and anything else, did not even like to look at people and would look away.
13 and it was a choice...live a life of fear, embarrassment, blushing,missing out on everything OR face all that i did not want to and feel the pain. The pain felt easier each time and i discovered i had a voice, and quite a surprising big gob at times.
Adult life came and shyness is no longer an affliction just a memory of how IT WAS WORTH FACING MY FEARS....and strangely enough years down the line UNEXPECTED ended up in theatre and performing arts.....exciting and magical...never even thought about this lifestyle until opportunity appeared and i took it!
One experience bit me in the bum by surprise....stage fright! In a verbal presentation all the ancient feelings came back...and i went blank and freaked...I had a choice to make on the spot under a light , with eyes watching my every move..QUIT THERE AND THEN OR CARRY ON AND RIDE THROUGH IT...I SAID TO THE AUDIENCE ...YOUR LUCKY IM GONNA DO THIS TWICE FOR YOU, THEY LAUGHED AND I WON SHYNESS THAT OLD FEELING THAT YOU CAN OVERCOME. FEAR IS THE KEY WORD......FIND YOUR VOICE.
GOOD LUCK
via con dios.
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