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anonymous
writes:He use to be so nice and sweet but he has been drinking and now i don't know who he is. He has just changed and its scaring me. What should i do? I think i might love him but i don't know him anymore.:( Please help me!! Reply to this Question
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reader, lysha  +, writes (7 April 2011):
 oh my god im 16 and ive had this problem ive been in a relationship for 4months friday and for the first few weeks it was all sweet as you said, but then came new years and his drinking got out of control, it was the first time id seen him drink, i got so scared i ran out of the flat iwas staying in , he wasnt violent against me but he was to members of his family and threw furniture around, it made me seriously think if this was the right person for me, i almost broke up with him, but then ithought just to have a word with him which is what you need to do, tell him that he scared you, (thats what broke my boyfriend down, he hated the thought) tell him exactly how it makes you feel and why, make him listen to evry word you have to say! if he is worth it then he will change just for you, my boyfriend changed instantly and he changed that much he learnt how to handle his drink without any help, he just needed a good speaking to by someone he has strong feelings for, if he wont listen and wont change then he isnt worth it, someone that likes you will be willing to make sacrifices:) hope this has helped:) xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): If he's willing to sit down and listen, have an honest chat with him about how his drinking and subsequent change of character is affecting you. If he becomes defensive, tell him that you're only pointing out these things because you care about him and miss the person he used to be, not because you want to spoil his fun or anything. Conversations like this are never easy, but for your own peace of mind it may be a good idea; if he can't see your point of view and continues unrepentantly down a bad path, perhaps you have no choice but to let go. I do hope things work out for you. Take care :)
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