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writes:I am 36 and met a man who is 49. We are both going through divorces and found comfort in each other. We have a lot in common and it is very easy to talk to him. I have told him things that I never told my husband in 18 years of marriage. He is afraid to get involved in another relationship at his age and he isn't sure he wants to get involved with someone who has children (I have 2 daughters who are 16 and 14). I don't know if I should tell him how I feel about him or just back off because I treasure his friendship and he has been there for me through this. He is totally opposite from my soon to be ex-husband and we have a lot of fun together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): I suggest, he is just not really that "into" you.
I know this might not be what you want to hear, but I suggest you find somebody that cares enough about you and your happiness; somebody that you can have a long term relationship with. This guy might be a good friend but nothing more and stop all benefits.
Do not become a victim of your emotions and spoil your chances and opportunities to meet the right guy while hoping that this one will come around; NO NO, MOVE ON.
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reader, gmhl1 +, writes (4 September 2008):
gmhl1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree with stopping the physical relationship because I definately don't want to loose him as a friend. He has been the saving grace in my divorce and I would much rather have his friendship than nothing at all. I truly love this man and do not want to risk our friendship.
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reader, gmhl1 +, writes (4 September 2008):
gmhl1 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe was in a relationship for 7 years and his wife cleaned him out while he was at work. She took everything including the hot tub. I understand why he doesn't want a relationship but the fact is we have slept together and we both knew we shouldn't have done it but it has happened more than once and I really care for him. I will respect his decision but it isn't easy to care about someone so much and stop the physical relationship.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (4 September 2008):
 I would stick with friends. He is probably worried about taking on a couple of teens, which in theory is what he would be doing eventually. He might be thinking best not to even go there to start with. Which is a lot better than getting into something with you then deciding that later on!
If he's that good a friend keep him as one.
Then in the future who knows ey.
C xxxx
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