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writes:Is it normal to worry about your wife cheating on you during a deployment?It's hard to not think about it from time to time. I feel I worry more because of my cirmcumstances. I have'nt even known my wife for a full year, about 10 months. Theres always that feeling that theres a piece of someone you don't really know. Especially if you havn't known them for long. I have a step child from her previous relationship. I know what your thinking, but the father isnt a question. We both wish he was dead anyways lol(j/k). Shes very smart and mature, shes not young. Ive been in about 3 years on a ship and ive heard about all the crazy infidelitous (sp) things husbands and wives do. Usually from what ive seen its the younger ones. My wife seems goal oriented and shes past that promiscuous stage in her life, shes almost 30 btw. i'm early 20s. I know what most think, i think it myself sometimes. I'm too young to be married, I should have thought it over more, gotten to know her etc. But whats done is done. She doesnt seem shady at all, is a great cook, always doing things around the house I dont even ask her too. In general I trust her more than when we even got married (been married for about 5months)and I grow to love and trust her more through time. But theres always those thoughts in the back of my head. What do you guys think? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): Thank you very much for your answer, i appreciate it. I guess you are right. It's all about trust really. And yes I got her sex toys lol.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (5 September 2008):
It's perfectly normal to worry. I'm an army wife and I know that one of the other wives here on base is the subject of rumours about cheating. This guy who's the squadron driver is giving her lifts everywhere...
Now I know for a fact that she thinks he's ugly fat and disgusting, but doesn't drive so needs his help to get to the supermarket etc. Apparently the rumours have reached Iraq and her husband is feeling TERRIBLE, even though he knows deep down it's not true.
The one person who is cheating during this deployment is one of the guys in Basra, who's sleeping with a nurse out there.
It works both ways and she is going to be just as worried about you cheating too.
If she loves you then she will not cheat. Just keep calling her when you can and writing to her. And order her lots of sex toys off the internet!
Good Luck!! xx
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