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writes:hi,i'm 24 and 6mths pregnant. i also have 2 boys, 1 of 5 and the other 1 yr. my 1 yr olds dad (21yrs) left me 2 days after my nan had passed away now he wants me back saying he wants 2 be a proper dad and family, he doesn't work he has just started to get a job but from his past probably won't stick to it. we used to live together but the last straw came when he broke a cup through anger (i told him i was going to come home at 5am just as he did from a pub, he knew i wouldn't really as i have to be up for the children the next day)so i told him to move back to his mums, he did. he says he loves me and cant live without me i don't know how i feel about him anymore as this will be the 5th time he dumped me in 2 and a half years. there is someone else interested but we haven't met just know things about each other through friends. im so confused and don't know what to do, please help. thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cole9292  +, writes (16 May 2007):
are you nuts? you have two kids already and a third on the way - you cannot put children in the vicinity of someone this unbalanced. why is this even a question? he has broken up with you repeatedly (which means he's not that into you) and it sounds like he borders on violent. he clearly has no intention of working, and he will just move in with you, let you support him, and start abusing your kids. once you have kids you have to put them first. you are still young and thinking about how much you like this guy, but you can't think about yourself. you have to protect them first and foremost, and you can't allow someone like this around them.
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reader, elsie +, writes (16 May 2007):
 hes got a bad track record and sounds like a weak guy.he cant live without you?yet hes dumped you 5times???i definetly dont advise that you go meeting anyone else this will only confuse matters more.sounds like your best be is perhaps to see if he can support you and the children and maybe stay with his mother or get his own room.see if hes capable of at least supporting you financially and sticking at a job first.only you can decide how long youll give him.good luck.
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