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writes:realy need your helpit looks like the guy im love with is moving again for work. but this time i wanna tell him how i feel but i dont know how to... please help! im so close to tears even when writing this.he moved back in april but then came back last month cause he didnt like the work/area. but now he has to move again.we are 'good friends' that what he calls us. he always tells me im a good person. but now i ready to tell him, but in help in how to tell him. there were times especially when we first met that i felt he felt the same way, cause he used to ask me out all the time, but even though the dates never used to happen, he still asked me out. when he moved the first time we met to say bye and he said he will really miss and gave me a kiss. that was the first time he kissed me, and we had known each other about 8 months by then. however we both have sent each other kisses online/texts!when i found out he come back, it was a few weeks after he actually he came back. i said to him thanks for telling me, he said he tried to calling me but i was on holiday and then my fone was swtuched off. i was on hol and then later found out he was calling my old number. we met up once since he come back, it was a day that he had an interview. it was before he had the interview. we went to the pub for a soft drink...then out of no where he asked me when am i going to get married (we have never spoke about marriage, aprt from one time when we first met, being in indian culture its more when parents wnat child to get married, at that time i said upon me qualifying as a lawyer, that would have been about 3years from when he first asked me and at that he was only looking for jobs in this city and going to move away)but when we met i told him that my parents dont want me to wait until i qualify and they want me to get married after my brother is married. he asked if they were looking for a guy for me, i said no, but some people have asked my parents for me but they have said mo. i said we are looking for a girl for my bro, then see what happens. i then asked him, he said that his sister geting married in may 2008 and that more than enough for him at mo and he wants to sort out his career first. and lil while later he said he looking for someone for his friend and that he could set me and this friend up. but then he said no forget that it wont work, and he cant be doing with all the hassle of setting it up. once he said that, he said that he going to the toilet and asked me to look after his things. he came back really quickly. we were in a place that nether of us been in before, and so in a new place dont even know where toilets are. he came back within less than a min...dont know if he really want to the loo or just because of what he said!!he hasnt told me about this new job, if i have got it correct. the last time he got a job he told that same night he found out and he was desperate to tell me his good news how he called it. so if he does call tonight, to tell me about this job, do i tell him how i feel? but what if he doesnt call me, its been a few weeks since we last spoke so i was going to call him in next few days, and then...i dont know please help me. i dont wana lose him. but i also wanna be his friend.anything u say will help. i hope ive been clear in what i told u...if i aint im sorry its just cause my mind is all over the placethanks xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2007): In your culture is it customary for the man to make the move, or is it as common for the woman to? You should call him tonight and ask him about the job and tell him you're going to be very sad if he leaves because you have feelings for him. Then take it from there.
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reader, xxmissxx  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 Ring him, and ask him if there is any other logic reason why he didnt want you to be matched with his friend.
he might tell you the truth then.
if he doesnt , then im afraid your going to have to swallow your pride and be honest with him.
tell him, that hes the one you want, not his friend, or anyone your parents hook u up with, just him.
you never know, he may waiting for you to do this, this could stop him from moving as much as he does aswell.
Dont kick yourself in the future wishing you did this now.
dont try? youll never know!
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reader, rockelle  +, writes (13 September 2007):
 I think you have wasted enough time, let this man know that you are interested in him. he may be just as interested in you. I think it is worth a try. Good Luck.
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