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writes: my bf is already divorced for very long years., when we meet he said he got no problem anymore and it is really true since i meet personally his ex-wife and we are ok. but my bf has a trauma in his life. he is scared of getting married again worried that maybe after getting married will change everything with us. we are doing good at the moment but i am not content of our engaged., i am also hoping for marriage.guess lots of woman wants to experience marriage.of course i can not force him to that i accept i am powerless with this., the thing is i do love him and i dont wanna lose him but i also want to be married with him but he can only give me the word that i should only trust him. the question is' how shall i manage to trust this word trust from him? i have also my past that also tell me the same word '' trust'' but never happen. how can i let my feeling back again to trust this word ''trust''?
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (20 September 2006):
 Typically a man who has been married before is more likely to want to remarry then not.
For him not to want to marry you and for him to tell you to trust him, sounds like many pieces of this puzzle are missing.
There could be many reasons why he is dragging his feet to the alter with you. Your relationship might have problems, he doesn't see you in the light of a wife, he is not over his divorce, or wife yet, or you could be pushing so hard he has backed off in pure defiance.
What it comes down to is he is not racing to the alter with you when statistically he should be.
Think about it and figure out why and then you will have your answers.
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