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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I made a big mistake!! When my boyfriend and i first got together about 6 months ago, we agreed we would have an open relationship. He was going out and chatting up women and made out he was seeing lots of them and gave the impression he was making full use of our open relationship. After a month of this we decided to get together properly, a normal monogomous relationship. One night he tricked me into admitting i'd slept with somebody while the relationship was open, as he confessed he had too. That was the end of that conversation, everything has been brilliant. Now he has realised what night it was that i slept with somebody, it was his birthday weekend and i saw him the day after. He is now disgusted that i did it on his birthday, that i saw him the day after and that he never really slept with anybody when we had the open relationship. I feel awful. he is devastated and feels he cant trust me anymore. I dont know if he is over-reacting though, as we weren't together, it happened after we'd been in the open relationship for a week, i was under the impression he was sleepig with people and he told me that, too. Im trying my best to fix things as im disgusted with myself, but i would like advice, to know if he is maybe playin on this to make me feel bad? if the tables were turned i can honestly say that it wouldnt bother me as i know the relationship was open. what are peoples opinion on this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, flower girl +, writes (25 August 2007):
 You both made the decision to have an open relationship, so if he can't deal with the fact you took advantage of that situation then thats his problem and he will have to get out of the relationship with you, rather than make you feel bad about nothing.He also lead you to belive he was using this deal to his advantage, so as far as i'm concerned he asked for it.Take care.xx.
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