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writes: I have a big problem. I have worked at my job for almost 10 years. Up until 2007, I had never dated anybody that I worked with, because I was not interested and I don't think its a good ideal. Most people that tried to talk to me were up to no good anyway and I've always tried to carry my self in a decent mannerI met this guy on the job and he appeared to be a nice guy. We started talking became friends and ended up seeing each other. He said he wanted to marry me. We shared some personal things that I thought was between the two of us. As time went on this guy turned out to be my worst night mare. He disrespected me and embrassed me to the core of my soul. What we shared I didn't share with anyone, but I can't say the same for him. Not only that he was telling me that the women on the job were trying to sleep with him, but it was him and them.The way he treated me hurt me so bad then he bragged because he was the only one on the job that I dated like it was some big deal. He did so many bad things and I wondered why would someone do that to someone who has been nothing but good to them. I got out of the relationship. He started seeing someone else he met at a meeting we had to go to for the job plus he was seeing other women. He would call me and threaten me when I didn't talk the way he wanted me to. He thought he was going to be in and out I of my life, but I didn't want anything to do with him.When I wouldn't answer his calls he stsrted sending text. I changed my cell phone number and blocked him from my home phone. At work I treat him just like I treat everyone else. He would try to say things to me about us, but I kept it proffessional. All this was last year. Finally he left me alone and I was so happy, but I felt sorry for his girlfriend. Everything had been going fine up to a week ago. He tried to get personal with me on the job again and I zoned him out. I treat him with repect after all he did to me, but he can't seem to be mature. since last week he has been calling me curse words under his breath around other people at work. Iam so tired of him. He treats eveyone else good and treats me like dirt. I hate I met him. I hate going to work because of his foolishness. I 'm over him and done with this and just want to be as if we were nothing. He on the other hand does not have any interest in me ,but wants to feel he can be with me if he wants to. He has a girlfriend and is suppose to be getting married. I wish he would be mature and leave me alone . Any suggestions?
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reader, Wreck  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 BEst thing to do is ... get another job , either that or you can tell your boss and get him fired for harassment.. but then again if you did that if he really is crazy he would try doing something to you or bother you for a really long time.... , So I would suggest find another job keep away from him.
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reader, The Rebel +, writes (25 June 2009):
Which country are you in? If you are in USA collect some evidence and see an attorney.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (25 June 2009):
He sounds like a real jerk and very immature Maybe you should consider filing some kind of harassment against him he thinks he is gods gift to women but then again you made your bed so now you have to lye in it i would continue to ignore him and iam sorry but why do you care what these people think of you in the first place they can see through his foolishness you need to keep being mature or find another job i would give as good as i get and just wouldnt bother with even acknowledging him period you have done all you can do when you have to change your number to me that is too much he isnt happy in his own life that is why he is around there playing games maybe you can ask your boss to tell him to leave you alone just because for a fact you have asked him to leave you alone and he refuses maybe when he is aware that the boss is aware of his behavior then he will move on to other things i cant see him getting much work done if he has all that time to gossip and make sexual advances toward people.
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