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writes: i live with a man who is getting divorced now and ever since we have moved in together he seems less happier to see me each day.
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (19 September 2006):
 He is going through a divorce or a better way to put it the death of his marriage. He is dealing with some powerful emotions no matter how pretty, smart, or sweet you are. He has to go through the steps of grief, Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance so he can morn the death of his marriage.
I have seen adults throw themselves into a relationship during the bargaining or Anger phase of a divorce. It is a misguided attempt to either phase.
The depression phase can get so bad that medication might be needed. At least point it out to his doctor so it can be monitored.
The huge downside of this, is there is a reason why you hear 'people going through a divorce should wait some time before getting into another relationship'. It is because of these powerful emotions they have to go through, it is hard for them to honestly commit to someone else.
The odds of your relationship working is very slim unless you are the reason for the divorce. Then it might last until he cheats again.
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