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anonymous
writes:recently my fiance has been having sex dreams and our sex life is becoming less and less when i ask him about these sex dreams he says oh was i i wish i could remember it and laughs it off and when i confront him about our lack of sex his reply is not everythings about me and that he has things on his mind this is all becoming to much for me im real upset, i work nights as a careworker and he sells porn for a living which i struggle with i really dont know what to do it hurts me because i love my fiance very much and were due to get married in a few mths i have been with him 2 yrs next may.please help
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous  +, writes (3 April 2012):
Does it bother you that he sells porn for a living? Have you ever discussed a career change? If you were uncomfortable with it all the while you probably should have mentioned it sooner but later is far better than never. Now about the sex dreams... Have you tried just climbing on him and him waking up to you on him? When you are home that is. I think you would both benefit very much from visiting a sex therapist. Especially since it may help him open up about his dreams. Please work this out before you get married or it will only cause you marriage troubles. Even if you have to delay the wedding. This is a huge factor in your relationship. Remember that if he loves you he will want to change for you, it takes work it wont happen all at once and if he insists he cant change then he cant get out of his own way and will lose a very good thing. Hope that helps.
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