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writes:I have recently retired on illhealth grounds and will recieve a moderate pension. My husband has been depressed over the last 6 months and it has effected our relationship. Now he has decided to give in his notice at work and is on anti-depressants. When I broach the subject of him getting a less taxing or part-time job he changes the subject and seems disinterested.I am starting to feel slightly annoyed as it looks like we will just about be able to cover all our expenses from my pension and have nothing left to enjoy after my 30 years of work.We are both 52. Am i being unreasonable and how can I stop feeling bitter?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): No, I dont think you're being unreasonable at all. The spanner in the works here is your husband's depression. This condition doesnt allow him to really see the bigger picture and how him being out of work is affecting you and also your bond together. I would work towards getting him through the depression and encouraging him back to work. Sometimes attacking the root of the depression is the best place to start coupled with some medication to balance the chemicals in his brain so he can fast track his recovery. If you approach the problem with a view to helping him overcome his depression then you will likely help both of you. IF you try to push him back into work and sideline his condition, then he may worsen and then you are both no better off.
I really hope I have helped in some way.
J
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