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writes:am 20years old and my boyfriend is 40. my dad is not happy with this at all, how can imake him change his mind? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): i would add that u r young and he is quite old .are u not worried about the fact that u might want to enjoy your life as he gets older he might resent that if u want to go out and he doesnt that might be a problem .just little things
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2007): Hi Please don't take this to heart. I am 25 and my partner is 59. I had no end of arguments with my parents when we first got together (my dad taking it worse like your dad). In the end my Dad had to accept that this was the real thing and it was either accept it or lose me. My Partner and I got married 18 months ago and my Dad gave me away - which I never thought would happen and they get along great. We've had our problems along the way but nothing that hasn't been overcome. My dad now realises how happy I am and has had no choice but to accept the situation. Give it time and I am positive that your dad will come round eventually. To him, you are still his "little girl" and he just doesn't want to see you get hurt. He is being protective. I couldn't see this at the time but I do now as I look back. Your dad will eventually be ok with this. It made a difference when my dad actually met my partner and seen how happy we were together. Please be patient and as long as you are happy with your boyfriend and he treats you right then that's great. I know how you feel trust me, it's not easy but it will in time. I wish you all the best and you and your boyfriend stick together on this. You'll just get stronger and you'll prove your dad wrong. Just be happy cuz life really is too short :-)
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (13 March 2007):
your dad should except what makes you truely happy.
but be warned, from a mans point of view its very rare that a father is going to except that his little girl is seeing someone old enough to be him. he may gloss over it and put a front on with time but its very rare he'll be happy with it.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 March 2007):
If your boyfriend can show your dad that he honestly cares about you, your dad may ease off a bit after a while. You have to see where your dad is comeing from though, you were his little girl once and now your with a man 20 years older. He is probly just worried that your boyfriend is trying to get back his youth by being with a woman 20 years younger. I am not accuseing your boyfriend of that, its just that your dad is bound to be protective. Although he does have to realise that your a grown up and need to make your own desicions and mistakes.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (13 March 2007):
 You can't make him change his mind but at 20 he can't exactly forbid you from seeing your boyfriend either. Just insist on how happy you are and try to get them to spend time together so your dad can get to know and trust him. Apart from that just try to accept your dad's right to not like him...
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