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anonymous
writes:If your boyfriend was adding other girls on a social network site, would you say something to him?Girls he doesnt know, girls who are lap dancers, work for anne summers parties, strippers, work in porn industry or are just a lot younger than him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): This is a dumpable offense so yes, I'd say something about it alright.If your boyfriend had a benign hobby like bottle cap or stamp collecting, joined a group of like minded enthusiasts and added a wide variety of people (young and old, male and female) then I wouldn't think anything of it.The fact that he is adding a specific type of person, namely young, attractive women in the sex trade I'd say he has a pretty specific agenda, especially if those women are local and somewhat accessible. He may not be actively pursuing them but he is leading himself into temptation and putting your relationship at risk. This is a pretty good indicator of what he thinks of your relationship.I've said in the past that it's not enough to do the right thing. We must also be seen to be doing the right thing and that means not putting someone else in a position of having to worry or wonder.This is not something you should just learn to accept. And HanT, you were not being pushy. You were spot on.
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reader, HanT +, writes (16 May 2011):
 Hell yes.
If he doesn't know them then why bother adding them?
I hate that a lot of my female friends always skirt around problems with their men. At the end of the day you should be able to say something if its bothering you. Communication is really important.
Also, adding women like that is going to make you suspicious, will you be able to fully trust him?
Just thought i'd contribute, even if I come across as really pushy and I apologize for that :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): Yes, speak to him about it as he is out of order.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2011): He is being a big kid and doing this for attention. He needs a big bad smack and to be treated like a child. No it is not ok for him to add them. If he is doing this he seriously needs to think should he have a girlfriend?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 May 2011):
If they were friends, that would be one thing. But to be adding the one's he's adding, I might say something.
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