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writes: Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and a half. At the beginning everything was great. But I got pregnant really early into our relationship and it seemed as if he kept getting further and further away. While I was pregnant, he tried to make me jealous with this girl he worked with. He took pictures of her and put them on his main picture frame and would talk about how pretty she was and would say her name constantly. Well, after that he apologized saying I had made him jealous first. My best friend was a guy, but the thing is I only talked to him about 4 times in 10 months. So I didn't see a reason but I let it go. Since I had my daughter he has been getting further and further away from me. He loves his daughter... he is a great father it is just with me that he and I have a problem... Whenever he doesn't like something, he makes me feel so horrible about myself. And if I say anything back he yells that I'm trying to start a fight. I have no say in anything. Another thing is I'm only 19 and he is 29 and he uses this saying I'm immature. I do act childish and goofy at times but when responsibility is needed I'm mature. Well, tonight it was just to much. He's been gone for a week and got back on Friday. I went to cuddle with him and he got upset. I couldn't react because he said I was pouting like a little child and he just went on and on like this for hours. I finally said something and he started ignoring me. He's avoiding me and come to find out he has been watching adult videos all day and doesn't even want to be around me. I'm sorry I'm probably rambling but it's just becoming too much and I don't know what to do... please help?
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reader, YummyMummy  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 He shouldn't be making you feel horrible at all hunni, especially when he doesn't like something. It's like a form of control over you.
By the sound of it he didn't want a kid that early in the relationship but he needs to learn to get over it as the child is now here.
You are ALLOWED to act childish and goofy at times at the age of 19!
I would walk away from him in your shoes. I know that you care about him and that you have a child together but your daughter needs a happy muumy, not one treading on egg shells trying hard to make daddy happy. That isn't what a relationship should be like. You and your partner should be sharing something amazing right now, not him making you upset all the time for wanting to talk.
He needs to change his controling attitudeor your relationship isn't going to work. If it's affecting you so bad already when will your daughter start picking up on it?!
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