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writes: my b/f never apologizes. He has not not done horrible horrible things. But things that we have argued about and i tell him this isn't about me telling you what to do, i am telling you that you HURT my feelings by doing it. So most times, his actions do change to make me feel better but he never apologizes for hurting my feelings or for how it made me feel. His actions will change but he never says anything. Should i accept this or complain that i need apologies too? I really don't know if its worth it if his actions mostly change when i complain something is really bothering me. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2006): word to the wise. MEN DONT APOLOGIZE for their behavour and attitudes,well at least most of the time. they just dont know how to do it properly. if they were to apologize for every wrong doing. the only words that would ever come out of their mouths was im sorry.
its just the way it is.
if u want to try and change things, talk to him again, and again.
and u do need to apologize for ur wrong doings too. women are much better at the whole making up and emotional parts of the relationship.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (22 November 2006):
 I think you need to pick your battles here. Men and women are on different planets when it comes to how and why we get hurt by things said and done and we need to accept that sometimes, men just don't get it when they hurt us. They don't see what we saw in what they said and they can't see why we're not getting over it - that's just what they're like!
At least he changes his ways when you mention it. Maybe an apology is needed to but think of the girls who complain about their guy constantly and he not only doesn't say sorry but also doesn't change what he is doing to upset them. These girls are much worse off than you and, quite frankly, deserve all they get if they don't walk away from a guy who doesn't care when he's upset them.
But you're guy isn't like this, really, is he? He sounds like he tries his best to please you and he just has problems talking about stuff like this and saying sorry. Don't actions speak louder than words?
Chill and out and give him a break. When it's your turn to apologise for something, why don't you show him how it's done. Point out what you're doing too so he gets the idea of how to solve a situation where the other person is hurt.
Hope this helped and good luck.
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