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writes: Hi there, Could I have someone else's opinion on this? I got a message from my boyfriend yesterday on the phone that his car was giving him trouble and then a second one telling me nevermind it worked-I called him back and heard him say hello and I said hi and was about to ask him what happened when it sounded like he hung up on me. I called him back immediately and I got his voicemail, so I just left a message saying I was hoping everything was okay and to ahve a good day. I thought it was weiird that that happened and a little ticked off because it really sounded like he hung up on me and when I called him back I just got his voicemail. I decided to leave him alone considering he had left me that second message earlier saying everything was okay. I went about my business for the day and he actually called back twice and then a third time and left a message saying he was all right and everything was fine on his end, and I didn't call him back until later on in the day because he always calls me when he gets off work so we can see each other and he told me he was in a bookstore in his hometown and I said all right, glad everything is fine wiith you and said goodbye. I felt bad he didn't call me that day because we always see each other and he just said I'm in the bookstore and I just felt that was rude in any case. He called me back and then I told him I felt like he hung up on me earlier today and it ticked me off so I felt like just leaving him alone until later on in the day. Looking back on it I felt like I could have nipped it in the bud earlier on and maybe it was a stupid thing to get mad over, but it's alos because he has hung up on me before and been rude to me and I felt like he was doing it all over again...well, in any case, I'm not sure what to tell him next, if I should apologize for not calling him earlier or what...I'd like a second opinion--thank you Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2006): Is it possible that his phone went out of range? Don't know if you have that problem where you are but here we have spots where our mobiles can't get reception and they just cut out. If you try and ring back and they are still out of range then the phone just goes straight through to msg bank. In that case it's not his fault. And he did ring back 3 times that day so i think that you should let it go. I'd say he cares about you, don't get in a major arguement about it. Goodluck
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (9 October 2006):
 You have to stop analysing the situation as you will just end up going around and around in circles with the dilemma. Maybe he hung up because he was driving...if he has a habit of doing that then just pull him up on it when you see each other face to face. I don't think his phone etiquette is the problem here though...is there something else bothering you? When you run your relationship like a script...he calls you at certain times, you call him at certain times it can mean that neither of you are relaxed or secure with the relationship and need to talk through what is really bothering you.
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