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*ictoriaJK
writes:My boyfriend hates it when I ask him what he wants in bed. He says he doesn't want to have to tell me because then it isn't special when I do it rather than if I were to just do something on my own. The only problem is that I don't know what to do half the time. I am quite inexperienced. I can easily seduce him and turn him on it's just when we actually get to the main event I don't know what else to do. Obviously I know how to have sex but other than the main thing what else can I do? Please help! I don't know where to touch him while he is inside me and I don't know what else I can do to make him feel incredible while we are going at it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2011): Firstly... he should be happy that you want to please him as best you can.
However, it would be very exciting if you just did it yourself. I often ask my boyfriend the same question, and although he tells me, i know he still loves to be surprised!
Why not blindfold him and tie him (loosely) to a chair with a back? then you can touch and seduce him in that way, and he'll be excited cos he doesn't know what's coming next. Also... this way you don't need to feel awkward - if you need to think about what to do next, it will just make his tense and leave him in suspension!
When you're having sex, just do what's natural. If he's on top, run your hands over his chest, shoulders, back and bum. You can touch him on the face as you kiss.
If you're on top, lean on his chest, and touch his sides.
touch him where you like to be touched.
If you still find it difficult to know where to touch him, why not try different positions where you don't HAVE to touch him? Try searching the net, or even a Kama Sutra book.
In relation to making him feel incredible while going at it... Why not try a vibrating ring? It just pops over the penis and sits on the base... and gives great pleasure for you both!
Try playing with his balls while he's inside you?
There's different lubes/condoms that spice things up... go buy some and surprise him with them? or some new underwear?
Having a shower/bath together is always good...
If you're outgoing, why not try surprising him with sex somewhere new? In the living room of the house while everyone else is out? in the bushes at the park? in a communal changing room at the swimming pool? in a car? Be imaginative!
Hope some of this helps! x
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