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writes:Little bit of back ground: I met this guy online. Our conversations were great and it seemed like we both were looking for same thing, meaning relationship. We went on dates each week for about a month. After about a month I chose a career path that involved me moving to a town which is about 3 hours away from the city. He was very supportive of my decision and we agreed on keeping in touch. Through a 2 month period we still kept in touch through phone and text. I visited the the town twice, we had sex the last time I visited. Now as time passed we still text and talk on the phone regularly. I've been quiet busy with school so he suggested he'll come down for a visit. He keeps on saying he'll come but it's been 3 weeks and he still hasn't. He just keeps on saying he wants to come and see me but keeps rescheduling. Do you think he lost his interest? How should I talk to him about it without being clingy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): He has already had sex, so in his mind; there's no rush. He got what he wanted. He doesn't want to look like a jerk; so, he makes obligatory calls and keeps in touch.
You've attached meaning to the sex, and he may not have attached as much as you have. He's not officially your boyfriend; and he doesn't want you getting any notion that he is, just because you had sex.
Focus on your studies, and start dating other guys. Let him think about it for a while; and start detaching your feelings.
He's just not that into you. So don't take him that seriously.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 November 2015):
 He doesn't want a long distance relationship but is afraid to say it to you. I, on the other hand, can be quite ruthless about it. I would just tell the guy, no sorry I don't want to travel back and forth.
If I were you I would just say to him, "Sorry, I took a good opportunity and moved away. Good luck in your search."
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