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writes:Kinda super stuck…So my current boyfriend, if you have read/answered my previous questions your probably twisiting in your seat, and I are back together. We broke up because my best friend let me know that he was cheating, she saw him grinding with another girl and he says he was super drunk and couldn't remember. So I broke up with him but decided to forgive him because we are human and we all make mistakes, low key I also slightly cheated. Two weeks into our second attempt, my friend let me know that he cheated again, she saw him walk into a room with another chick at a party and later found out that they had sex. So at this point I'm basically done with this boy but my questions is should I dump him now or wait until i'm back home, we are in a long distance realtionship. That may seem like an obvious question but I ask because I can honestly careless about what he chooses to do but I haven't broken up with him because that would mean talking about my feelings and letting him know what my friend told me, which i can't really do because I promised her I wouldn't let him know who told me. So rn he still texts me good night, good morning, and tells me that he loves me, which of courses if a lie but it's entertaining to me and I don't really know how to approach the situations, so I've been stalling. On my end we are done but its not official and he also doesn't know that, which I do admit is messed up. So…should I brake up with him now or wait?? and if so, how should I tell him, without letting him know who told me??BTW aunts you're the best (: and thanks in advanced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2015): Sweetheart, comeback when you start to miss him and start second-guessing yourself. He knows how to mess with your head, and he'll try. We'll be here for you!
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reader, peekn'boo +, writes (3 November 2015):
peekn'boo is verified as being by the original poster of the question UPDATE: thanks Aunt's just texted him and ended it, I feel good and sure of my decision! (: thanks again
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (3 November 2015):
 Tell him you tried but can't look beyond the last time he cheated, that you've just lost interest in him.
Send him an email or a text. He doesn't deserve the courtesy of a discussion and it would save you listening to more rubbish. Then block/delete him and change your facebook settings so that only friends can contact you.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (3 November 2015):
 Since you have made up your mind as to what you want to do then hurry up and do it. Break up with him ASAP. During the break up, keep the talking points on your terms, meaning be specific, conclusive and short... Then go about your happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): Well, since you're not officially broke-up; he's carrying on like everything is normal. It's not done on your end either. You're afraid to tell him you're finished; because you're afraid he'll just move on and see other girls. He is over you by now, and has been cheating continuously.
Guys don't respect girls/women who let them getaway with cheating.
You're not forgiving him, you're enabling him. He knows you're not strong enough to just breakup. He can sweet-talk his way back, and he knows you're afraid he'll just start seeing other girls; because he's officially free to do so.
He's well over you, and he's really not cheating anymore.
You're just not letting go. He has psychologically moved on and doesn't want you to do the same, until he has found someone to replace you.
He doesn't want you seeing other guys; and since you've "somewhat" cheated yourself. You're both acting like spoiled children refusing to let go of the candy.
Time to make a mature decision, and do what's best for you.
It's already over. He's messing with your mind. He's a cheater and doesn't care about your feelings; he just knows how to keep you stuck. He still gets to mess around with other girls; while you pretend you're not officially broken-up. Time to grow up!
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (2 November 2015):
 Just say you haven't been able to forgive his pervious cheating and it's better for you to part ways because the distance make it difficult for either of you to stay interested. He really deserves to be dumped, in whatever way if he was so careless about cheating in front of a friend who knows you. If you decide to just let the contact die out, it's okay too.
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