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*oxane Ford
writes:So, i met this guy from bbm about 5 months ago. We were having a nice chat. After talked for a long time, i think i kinda like him. He send me a message everyday. He asked about his family and my family, and all of his personal life and ask about mine. He called me "babe", always says that he loves me. And he says that he miss me. He always text me first, then i reply it.But since 1 week ago, he never text me first. So i send him a message... and he said: "sorry babe, i'm so busy, so much thing i gotta do." It's been a week since he turn off his bbm, then yesterday i saw him updating his status about lakers. He loves basketball so much. All of his updates were about sports.Well, until now he never text me anymore, and i'm afraid to text him first because i'm afraid to bother him.What should i do? Should i text him first because i really miss him. Or whatt??? What should i ask to him??HELPPPP!!!
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reader, Roxane Ford +, writes (22 March 2014):
Roxane Ford is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your advice guys, i appreciate that.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (18 March 2014):
 Calling you babe and telling that he loves you is fantasy. Sure it feels nice to hear but the guy doesn't REALLY know you.
I would let him be. If he was TRULY infatuated with you, he wouldn't leave you hanging for a week. And he WOULD find a way to met up in person.
I would go out with friend and enjoy life. Not try and carry on a relationship over chat/text.
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reader, Marilissa75 +, writes (18 March 2014):
 Chat based relationships are not real, in-person relationships. He is probably on to the next flirtation. You know nothing about him. I think it is a wonderful idea for you to get out and get some hobbies, take up dancing, go to church or some other type of group, take classes of some kind, volunteer...so you can meet a real man and get to know him. Take it slow and focus on quality and depth in the relationship before getting intimate. Best of luck to you! This guy probably did you a huge favor!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2014): Get out more, and make some friends.
Find yourself a real date to hangout with. You've gotten addicted to messaging; and just liked being called "babe." Big deal!
He chatted with you for a while; and got into your personal-life. You may have given him too much personal information.
You've never met him. What is there to like so much?
He has a life to keep him busy; as you should have.
He may also have a wife and family for all you know.
All you know about him, is what he puts in a message.
Please stop wasting your precious time sitting around day and night; waiting for messages from some fellow you have never met. Now he's bored of you and moved on to watch his basketball games, and flirt online with other women.
All this fuss, just so he can call you "babe?" He probably calls every woman he meets online "babe."
Delete him from feed, block his messages; and get on with your life.
You're too young to spend your life just staring at the screen of your laptop or smartphone waiting for his messages. You probably put your whole social-life on-hold; so you can be available for his messages. No real dates.
You should be out having fun with other young people. It's just easy playing make-believe; when you don't have to really be a person, or interact in-person with another. He can't judge your appearance and he can pretend to be any type of guy you imagine.
Get some practice dating real guys.
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