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writes:Hello. I can't really find a question anywhere that relates to my situation so I will ask it myself.I am a gay man, at around January last year - this guy started talking to me out of the blue (I do know him anyway, but haven't spoke to him in years). I was kind of puzzled how he got my number but we spoke for a while, he asked when my birthday was, which I told him was in a couple of months' time. He was very sweet and funny (in a good way) in every message. He said OK, he spoke to me briefly every other month until then (I think it was because then, I wasn't 18, I guess) in May time, we had a very deep conversation where he admitted he was gay, and he wanted to take me on a date; as I'm not officially out to everyone - I lied to him and told him I'm not. He backed off but still spoke to me every other month, where I was blunt ish to him. Last month, he changed his number and gave me his new number where we spoke again, and he asked me on a date again where I just thought 'why not? He obviously must be really into me if he keeps messaging me even though I essentially told him I'm not interested'. I admitted to him I am gay too and he was over the moon, saying he's so excited to see me and can see good things happening to us and just generally happy. We went on two dates (this was around two weeks ago) first one was to the cinema, the other was for a meal and just spending time together, introduced me to his friends and getting to know each other better. On each occasion, we kissed and both said we really enjoyed ourselves and will have to go on more dates. He messaged me constantly after the dates, video called, phoned me, calls me babe, etc The thing is though, he is currently studying abroad as he is training to become a doctor, but comes back home every month. We have been messaging each other everyday (he messages me first, also, like all the time, except once or twice). Except today, he hasn't messaged me at all... Like, he's been online on WhatsApp, like all the time, so he's not that busy. I don't know what I've done? He has done this before, where he has been online practically all day and he didn't really give a reason why he didn't speak to me. I know I don't really owe him anything as we aren't dating officially but he could at least say hi to me? Am I being too clingy? Or over dramatic? What do I do? Has he lost interest? Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2016): Hi I like this guy he hasn't messaged me please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): This is the OP, thank you all for your answers. He has messaged me this morning so I guess it's ok. And you are right, I am making the guy the center of my attention - I will try not to appear clingy, and try to keep myself busy and turn off the whatsapp last seen haha!
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reader, Jk101  +, writes (12 March 2015):
He hasn't text you in a day and you a re panicking? That's a red flag... you are making this guy a center of your attention. It will make you become clingy and in the end you will push him away. Find something to do to keep you busy and don't think of it too much. Nobody likes a clingy person in a relationship. wait for 3 days or so. if he still hasn't contacted you then , you can give him a call or text him and do not ask why he is been quite.
good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): Maybe he's waiting to see if you'll initiate contact first for once? Just send a casual message, maybe a little joke and say hi. Then change WhatsApp settings so you can't see when your contacts were online,that will drive you crazy. I've been there! X
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