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writes:My bf hangs around a lot of girls who all have crushes on him. They are always very physical with him, hugging him, kissing him on the cheek, touching his legs etc and getting him to put sunscreen on them and they put it on him. On several occasions he has "accidently" seen one of the girls naked. He jokes around with them a lot, and they do back to him- but these just aren't ordinary jokes - they are sexual based jokes and this really upsets me. I feel that he is being way to intimate with these girls, especially considering they all have major crushes on him - he knows it, and my god does he make sure I know about it! I usualy just try to ignore it when he tells me these things, because I know that if I focus on it too much, then id break down and cry in front of him and I dont want that. I would feel like im giving him what he wants- i think he wants me to be jealous.Sometimes I feel like he cares more about geting an ego boost from his girl friends more then about me, his gf.It doesnt help that all his guy mates always bring it up that these girls like him, they tease him and try to encourage him to 'go for it'. What hurts most, is that he never says 'dont worry, i dont have any feelings for them'- he just gets so caught up in the attention and how it makes him feel good. And when he talks about it, its like hes over the moon and on heaven, nothing could break his spirits, hes so high that he doesnt even see the look on my face. I am 20 years old and my bf is 21. Am I overeacting feeling lke this? If I confront my bf, I can just imagine my bf telling me that I shouldn't worry because nothing has happened between them. But the way I see it is, that doesn't matter, so he hasn't technically cheated, he's crossing what I see as major boundaries. Would it be too much of me to say to him its either me or his girl crushing friends?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the great support to both of you.
Emilysanswers- I never noticed he was really like this at first. It has been more of a recent thing. Him talking about all these girls who sing his praises happens on a regular basis, like pretty much every time I see him, he has some new story about some girl being all over him.
Although when I first met him he did talk about his ex gf A LOT, so I waited a while until dating him, and when he stoped talking about her all the time, I decided to give a relationship a go, and then about a month later, this all started- him bragging about all his girl friends who are crushing on him.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (29 January 2009):
If he was like this when you met him, and then you started going out with him then you can't expect him to change.
If it is a more recent thing then you have a big issue here.
Either way, I think you need to talk to him about it and tell him that it really upsets you that he is in this position and that his friends are encouraging him to cheat.
If he offers to be a bit more respectful to you then great, if not then you just have to decide if you want to be with someone who is willing to hurt you just to get female attention.
Good Luck!! xx
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