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writes:I am living with my boyfriend. We are together a year now. He has a 7 year old son. He had to work last night so I was babysitting his son. I hadn't heard from him all night so at 10 I text him and said we are off to bed and what time would he be home at? He started telling me I had to come in and collect him. Turned out he didnt have to work and was a few pints instead!! I explained his son was a sleep and I couldnt leave the house. I phoned him because he was getting narky on the texts. When I eventually I got through to him he got snotty with me and hung up because I wouldnt collect him. I then got a text from him saying we were finished. He arrived home at 12 and I was in bed. He said nothing. Then I got up this morning. I didnt say a word. His son was awake so I was chatting to him while I was getting ready. He started making small talk with me and said nothing about last night. Then I just went off to work and nothing was said about the row. I don't know what to do now. I have heard nothing from him. I don't even know if he will be there when I get home tonight. Any advice would be great for dealing with this immature fool!
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (28 July 2011):
He may be immature, and a fool, but you are the one keeping your mouth shut. This may be the hard part for you in the relationship, to tell him stuff he does in the relationship that you don't like, or won't accept, or that he was being a pratt and you won't accept that behaviour. Whatever it is that you find difficult to talk to him about, now is a good time to start. It is good for you to tell him you are angry, hurt, whatever you are feeling, and how you expect to be treated in the relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): If he wants to act like a child then put him on the naughty step.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2011): Simple lizzy, you wait until he gets home and you talk about what happened last night.
The best advice I can give you though lizzy is to stand your ground on this, he owes you an apology for lying to you, he owes you an apology for getting snotty and demanding you leave a 7 year old on his own to go collect him (seriously like wtf?) and he owes you an apology for the hurtful things he said. Don't accept anything less than full remorse for those things lizzy, he doesn't just get to pull that kind of shit and get away with it. Drunk is not a good excuse for it but it will be a reason to give him a bit of leeway as long as he takes responsibility for it and sincerely apologizes.
Lastly you need to let him know that you're not going to stand for being spoken to in that way and if he wants to behave like a child then he can do it somewhere else.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 Hey. Well first of all how drunk was he ? he might not acutally remember what he said or he thought it was a good idea at the time and then realized how out of order he was in the morning but didnt really have the balls to apolgyize.
From what it sounds like it doesnt sound like he is very nice, lying to you so he can go out with his friends when he told you he would be at work is defointly not acceptable i hope he doesnt do this often !
I think that you are kind enough offering to look after his son and if he wanted to go for a drink why didnt he just tell you instead of lying ?
If he breaks up with you because you wouldnt pick him up because he had to many because you were to busy looking after his son it just proves what an immature excuss for a man he is ! If he is like that all the time i really wouldnt put up with it, hopefully this was just a one off.
If he comes home tonight then talk to him and tell him what he said and how you think he was completely out of order after you had offered to take the time to look after his son, also say it was bad enough just lying.
If he goes off in a mood let him get on with it, if he is like this all the time personally i wouldnt stay with him for a second, but hey thats me.
Hope this helps xx
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reader, banditsmom1124  +, writes (27 July 2011):
 not sure what kind of advice i can give except stay calm and good luck
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