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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We have been having problems and I have found a number of text messages to 3 different women he has listed on his phone as men's names. He says that there is nothing wrong with this and that I am wrong for going through his phone. The messages are often very flirty with x's at the end.What should I do??
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reader, Yos  +, writes (5 December 2006):
 The other aunts are right. This is a very suspicious thing, and for your boyfriend to say 'there is nothing wrong' is also a problem. Sending flirty texts to women whose names he is hiding is clearly wrong!
I suggest you go back to him and try talking some more. Try to be as neutral and not-accusatory as possible. You want him to tell the truth. Only when you are satisfied that his really on the level with you can you make a good positive decision.
If he won't tell you the truth, then you should seriously consider leaving him. Honesty and trust are essential ingredients of a healthy relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2006): There is something wrong here.
I think he is really flirting with these girls, because if he was really doing nothing wrong, he wouldn't change their names to boys names.
You need to talk to him and re-evaluate your relationship.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check  +, writes (4 December 2006):
 I dont answer loads of posts, but read this one, and had to. This is VERY suspicious. My guess is that he's doing the dirty on you. If he had nothing to hide, why would they be listed under different names? There are many things you could do from ringing these numbers to completely breaking it off with him, but only you will know what feels right. Good luck.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (4 December 2006):
 I think u are right to be suspicions. If it was innocent he wouldnt have to conceal them. You should let him know u wouldnt put up with his deceit. I know how u must feel, it is horrible being in a relationship with someone u cant trust.Think deep and decide how best u are going to handle it.
Take care, lots of hugs
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