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writes:I have known this guy from for over 7 years. We met back in college. We had a nice connection, and strong passion between us. I have not heard from him for a while. Should I call him or email him?I have known this guy from for over 7 years. We met back in college, and he’s a teacher now by profession. I had the biggest crush on him back then, and he on me. Our friendship was so intriguing and supportive and pressure free. After graduation, we lost touch throughout the years, and recently bumped into each other early this year. We've gone out a few times in between our busy schedules, and had a great time. We had a nice connection, and strong passion between us. Out time spent together was limited as my work and his demanded our time. I was often busy with overnight projects and designs to be delivered in the urgency it was conceived, and he with intensive research when not teaching in class. This summer I was in the process of moving to a new house and we didn’t have time to see each other. We kept our communication on email. He was getting prepared to start the new school year, and the last time we emailed he said he would call me within a week to get together before the summer ends. That was a month and a half ago, and I have not heard from him. No email, no phone call, nada. Something similar happened in the past. When we first met up, we were getting on well for a while and then out the blue he stopped calling and emailing when he said he would. I called him to check in and see if things were alright with him, and basically said that he was extremely busy but he wanted to see me. He got caught up and overwhelmed by a huge research project and was so happy that I called. He wanted to make time to see me right away, and I bought it for what it was. I was happy to see him again too. Now, the same thing - I have not heard from him for a while, and I don't know what to do. Should I call him or email him? I don't even know what to say. Is he shy about contacting me too? Sometimes we get stuck in this ‘who makes the move’ mood and I’m quite shy as well. I need to get this out my head. I keep going back and forth on whether to contact him or just let it go and move on. What do you think? Anyone, any advice on the above is appreciated. Sleepless in Chicago
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Id give this guy a call again. Chances are he may be busy and focused on some stuff. He is clearly interested, showed signs of meaningfulness, and has been genuine with you it sounds. Thus, I dont think he's playing any kind of game. In fact, mmmm...I wouldnt call him. This time around, Id shock him lol. Well, surprise him. I as a guy would love that. If you know where he lives, his work, etc. Id send him a small gift n nice lil note inviting him out again...perhaps flowers even! I kid u not..id flip out if I ever got those from a woman lol.
He wont see this as being aggressive and u wouldnt scare him off as his feelings for you I feel are mutual. Good luckers :)
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