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writes:Help i came in between two brothers :( I met this guy and we became close friends one day he told me he like me but i told him i didn't feel that way about him .so he stop talking to me and we didn't hangout anymore .But then his older brother told me he liked me even before his bro started talking to me ... i am soo lost i need advice i just wanted to be friends with both of them but now i might have to stay away just so they wont fight with each other.Ohh and the best part is that the older bro knows nothing about what his younger brother told me . so i really need some advice :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2010): Hello,
Yes, interesting situation. First off, since this is part of a family, there should be open communication about this cause if there isnt, one brother will find out about the other dating you eventually and when that happens, Bam! Conflict. A clear line of communication about ur feeling with both should be discussed with each and if necessary both should be present.
To be honest, My brother's GF is more like me and it makes more sense for her to be with me then him simply cause of relationship goals. However, since we have always had a nice friendship and she doesnt make it seem like im a bad guy, I maintain a solid relationship with her. You need to sit both guys down and tell them who you think is best but at the same time focus on the positives of both personalities and say I need to make a choice and dont want to make one based out of any emotion other than what makes sense for me right now to be in with. Hopefully, if you make them both out to be good gentleman the possibility of them having a fight is less likely and thus they would be more supportive of any relationship.
Moreover, if you want to avoid any potential conflict with them, then Id say keep both brothers as friends but pursue other men as you dont want to risk feelings and things getting tangled into a mess. As mature men, they should respect such a decision and not make u feel guilty if u were ever to do such a thing.Hope this helps.
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