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writes:Hi allI would really appreciate your opinion.I have been with my guy for nearly 6 years.About 2 months ago we split after a huge row. (we started to talk not long after)I went on holiday for 2 weeks. We love eachother very much.We text everyday (mainly dirty messages ect)and some on how much we missed e.other ect.Anyway, the day i got back i checked my email and myspace(which he knows i had and had even seen my page. i dont have friends on there i dont know just mainly old school friends and work mates).Anyway, i had a message from his neice, i didnt know she was on there, and messaged back. When i visited her profile i was shocked to see my guy with a page!! he cant even use the net very well, its new to him. Anyway, the status was single, and there was no mention of me (you could tell the page was new, it was unfinished). I cried, and was shocked, he never told me ect and iwasnt mentioned.Hes mentiond on mine.Is it ok for him not to mention me? as we had split?(obv we made up and were together now) but i cant help but feel loss of trust and why i wasn't on there,he said he was gonna add me later once he knew where he stood!And there was a very pretty big busted blonde as 1 of his 2 friends. i was gutted. she was stunning.He said his neice created the account and must of added her. And said he hadn't got anything to hide as he told his neice to mail me, and obv he would be in her friends.Im confused. hurt. about the woman, and all of the above ect. its stillon my mind. this happened about a month ago.Can i have some advise ?
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reader, TaylorChu +, writes (25 July 2007):
 You two are not together therefore he is single as are you.
MYSPACE is not the greatest indicator on ANYTHING in life. Don't let your emotions get bent out of shape over what you read OR pictures people post. Many people use that website as a way to broadcast themselves and friends dont have control over what pictures other "friends" may post of themselves.
Whatever he does with his page is his business and you can't change that. It hurts not to be mentioned but you can't do anything about it. If he decides to add you as a myspace friend then he will til then dont go looking at his page everyday to spy on him and his doings. You'll be let down everytime.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (25 July 2007):
I understand how you must be upset, I would be too. But have you actually asked him why he didnt mention you or change his status to being in a relationship? You didnt mention in your post if you did or not.
Perhaps he hasnt logged onto his account since you guys started going out. Or maybe since he doesnt know much about the internet, doesnt know how to change his status?
You should really ask him and see what he has to say, then decide if his reasonable is acceptable or not.
As for the blonde added on his accoutn, again I can see why this would upset you nad make you feel insecure in your relationship. But you know, guys are guys...most guys do have some hot looking chick on their myspace, even when they have bfs. Its either something you can accept by saying its ok because she doesnt mean anything to him, or you can tell him how you feel and perhaps if he understands he may remove her.
hope this helped :) if you want to talk just PM me.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (25 July 2007):
 You seem to be worrying about something that happened but has now been resolved. He made the MYSPACE when he had split from you, so he has a right to state he was single at that time. He was honest enough to say he would add you when he knew where he stood with you, thats a fair thing to say as he obviously wasnt sure you guys were gonna get back together again.
Generally MYSPACE is a fun and harmless programme that allows people to express themselves, it's about the person themself and apart from a weblog, there isn't really a place to mention ex's, part ex's or breakups. Most people don't even bother writing a weblog. I am sure now you are back together he will mention you on there and might even add pictures of you both.
I think your over reacting, if he didn't love you he wouldn't have gotten back with you. Just dismiss it.
...and as for the busty blonde, shes probably on a thousand other guys MYSPACE accounts. Everyone has a busty blonde on their MYSPACE heh!!, it doesn't mean a thing.
Get over it and enjoy the relationship you have.
Aunty Em x
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