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writes:Dear cupid(s),Ok I posted not long ago about the same situation.. but it has escalated out of control..So,the deal is, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months.And as we progress in our relationship, so do all of our issues.For the past week or 2,he has been hitting me.I won't lie,or glaze over the truth,I hit him and he hits me back.He has also been getting overly violent and threatening me.He guilt trips me so I don't go and see my friends and when I get close to people he does the same.(Examples: "You're going to leave me for him/her!" .. "You're cheating on me!")He is really selfish,immature and I've caught him looking at other woman which he then blatantly lies about.He has been showing more and more violence and anger issues for the past 3 months.I am really scared, but I do love him and I feel I am not strong enough or good enough to leave him and find someone better.Can anyone help me?!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2008): a cry for help? You're kidding me there was nooone saying stay with me I surely didn't she has her own mind I found this post she did because I was beside her and she was on the phone with email and I'm like what's that and she acted all weird so I said show me.. Since shes hidden emails from guys before which were her friends saying have sex with other people.. And privacy? She always goes thru my phone? so seriously mind your buisness.. you can't help someone who is just making stuff up
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reader, destiny23  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 well if your the perfect partner and give her everything why would she need to attention seek?? its more a cry for help. more to the point why are you violating her privacy by coming on here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2008): Obviously she is in it for attention, I'm the guy shes talking about.. Before giving this girl absolute crap answers maybe you should ask her a few questions, Why are there cuts down your arms and legs? Answer... Attention, why did she try hide this post from me? Because she knows it's absolute bull, I've never laid a finger on her? I'm pretty sure I'm the one with bruises on me?? Why don't you say you bash me? Oh wait your trying to act like the victim, and it's bullcrap, that's why were not together right now I don't deserve this crap.. I give her everything, so STOP ATTENTION SEEKING..wait do whatever you want not my problem anymore, good luck with your next I'm sure he won't put up with it either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): ok sweety I'm going to be perfectly honest with you.I've been in this type of relationship for 5 yrs... I'm not going to coat it with sugar, this may be the hardest thing you've ever had to do. I have children with the abuser so its hard... its not easy to walk away but its not impossible...get away from this individual... change your phone number let him know you mean business.. if you stay, this will only escalate ... I do not believe the father of my kids can possibly love me if he does these things... so I'm telling you that your boyfriend can't possibly love you... especially after this type of behavior...he is obsessed and trust me its a cycle he will do this to every girl he meets and more than likely has done this before you... I know you probably feel munipulated and he's probably doing a number on you and your self- esteem he's not going to change no matter if he cries pleads begs it won't happen... he already knows he can get away with it and controls you with fear... I have to say you have some balls for hitting back but nevertheless he's not worth it... be strong show him you mean business...seek help from friends family or the authorities...maybe he needs to spend some time behind bars... if you stay he will graduate to doing more extreme things to you which can result in hospitalization or even death for you or him...
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reader, destiny23 +, writes (11 October 2008):
hi sweetheart
my advice to you is quit while your ahead, this situation is only going to get worse i've been there, done it and seen it all before through my own personal experience believe me it gets no better. read my profile!
you deserve better than this and there's better out there for you huni. your only aged between 16-17 i was the same age as you when i got myself into a violent relationship and it was a horrible experience. if you need to talk anytime just drop me a line
Best wishes xx
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