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writes:Hi. I've just started my first year of university. Twice in the past two weeks now I have been to the same club. On both occasions I have ended up dancing with, and eventually making out with a girl. However, nothing has ever gone further than that.The first one asked if I wanted to come back to her apartment, and I accepted her offer, only to find out she wanted to get a taxi back. Luck obviously wasn't on my side, because I tried to get some money out so we could get a ride to hers, and the machine wouldn't give me any, despite the fact that I had enough money in the bank. So, we went back to the club to see about going to hers with her friends back in the club, but the bouncers would only let her back in and not me. She was in there for about 10 minutes, and when she came back, she had obviously had a change of heart, because she didn't look at me, and she was in the arms of one of her guy friends. I took the hint and left.The second was much stranger. We just met on the dance floor, and before I knew what was happening, we started making out. However, after a little while, she just seemed to walk away! She didn't say anything as to why, she just left. This frustrated me quite a bit.I've heard people say that sex is something that is inevitable at university, but after 2 weeks of potentially getting close, I've had no joy. Whereas, I've spoken to people who say that they slept with somebody in their first week. One of my friends told me he's slept with four different women during his first 5 weeks of uni life. I don't want to feel like I'm missing out on anything, but I'm starting to worry that I am. Am I worrying too much about this?Also, I must add; please don't think that all I'm looking for is sex. I would prefer a relationship a hell of a lot more than having sex with a stranger, but I've just started uni, and I'm up for some fun. What can I do to get it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Just like me you are looking for love in all the wrong places honey you need to find a decent girl at a decent spot. Girls that go clubbing are mostly there for a one nighter they dont want love they just want sex. I know sex is what you are after but have it with someone that loves you dont make my mistakes like i did
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Although you say you are not just looking for sex, it does come across that you are!! or else why worry about it so much? I didn't sleep with anyone until i was 19 I was in no rush, a best friend of mine went to uni & the last few months he met someone & slept with her.
Why dont you try & meet a girl somewhere else & ask them out for a drink & build a relationship that way? I dont think there is anything wrong with you & i really dont think you are missing out on much at all.
I probably don't understand too well because i am a girl, but meet a nice girl & ask her out & fingers crossed everything will work out.
& Just to clear any misunderstanding's up, I don't mean take a girl out on a couple of dates then sleep with her & leave, i mean a girl that you really like & who likes you.
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