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writes:I have found out that he has cheated and Im not sure if I can get over it. He has not wilinginly admitted to it and he has been with the same girl off and on for over a year every time we would supposedly break up..which mind you was quite a bit. That is another question did he constantly break up with me to be with her? He says she has a boyfriend now and she is pregnant now. I am not sure how to get over this or if I should? I have the puffy eyes this morning and it seems from the moment I wake til the moment I fall asleep I cant stop thinking or wondering if this could happen again. I was wondering if I should talk to this girl that I know and she knows me to get her side of the story and more answers I feel I deserve? Help Me please?
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (9 October 2008):
 Talking to the girl usually doesn't make any difference. My husband cheated on me with some girl and I talked with her to let her know that he is married with a child and lives with us. Do you know she continued to date him and eventually got pregnant. We've been seperated since that incident he soon moved on to another female and she's now pregnant. So yes I believe in the last response "once a cheater always a cheater." It's really true. You have to decide if you are really willing to accept that about your bf. and sometimes it still doesn't work, because they eventually want to be all the way free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIm sorry for the confusion, thanks sooo much for listening and responding to me! He stated that when we broke up is the only time that he had slept with her, but in honesty I do not believe him! It took him even awhile to admit to him sleeping with her every time we split up. We unfortunatly split up quite a bit, sometimes only for a couple days..did he do it to be with her is my question. Our relationship has taken a different avenue lately, but I agree how can I always worry about him and her or anyone else, this is soo confusing! I have never been in this much heartache or uproar in my life, Should I speak with the girl or leave that alone?
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reader, Serenity1 +, writes (8 October 2008):
I'm sorry you had to find out about this. I've been there so I know it's painful. I'm kinda of confused on your story though. If you and your bf were broke up when he was with the other girl, how was he cheating on you. And if you two weren't broke up everytime he spent time with her then you need to ask yourself are you willing to forgive him and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2008): Get rid of this loser now! He does not deserve one more of your tears! Believe me I have been cheated on in at least three relationships and THEY DO NOT CHANGE! Once a cheater always a cheater! My last partner swore he would never see the girl he cheated with ever again but I had a sneaking suspicion he was still seeing her and sure enough he was! These men are compulsive liars and will do anything to have their cake and eat it too. Even if he is not with this girl now (who is allegedly pregnant - probably another lie) there will be someone else to take her place soon enough. Move on from him and save yourself any further heartache as you will always be wondering what he is doing and where he is and with whom. So not worth it! Good luck. Time is a great healer. Keep busy with your girlfriends and go out and have fun!
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