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writes:I'm having a few problems with my boyfriend. There's a large age difference between us, but it's never been a problem; we're very similar and have a lot of fun together. I knew he had a son from a previous relationship but he's only started seeing him regularly (every weekend) lately. I know this is great for his relationship with his son, but I'm feeling really weird. I'm 20 and we've talked about marriage, but whilst I'm ready for marriage I'm not sure I'm ready for a family-like situation. Am I just being silly and jealous? I'm just about to finish uni and want to have a life before I settle down with children. He's a lovely man, I'm just not sure what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2007): Coming from someone who's going through a similar experience(there's a 10 year age gap and he's got 2 sons), I completely understand your reservations about getting married. I had them myself and when he proposed to me I really had to look inside myself and say "is this what i want?" "does he satisfy my needs in every way at least 95% of the time?"(i say 95% because honestly it's almost impossible to find a man that pleases 100% of the time). Can you imagine yourself with this guy forever? and more importantly how well do you know his son?, do you think you would be capable of taking the role of stepmom at 20? I'm 22 and I know for me it was kinda of scary to think of but when I looked inside myself and asked those questions, I also realized that I had already had boyfriends(so it wasn't like i was going to miss out on going out with other guys) that he treated me wonderful 95%(communication is great, sex, friendship, and all other aspects of the relationship) and his kids were great too. I made a grown up desicion and said yes to him because honestly I knew that that is what I wanted and that he does it for me. It's up to you girl just make sure that before you commmit to anyone be right with yourself and be happy. Oh and one more thing, since he has a kid, be prepared to be 2nd place in his life. Kids are always first, the sooner you know this the better of you will be!! hope this long ass letter helped!
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reader, home_land  +, writes (25 March 2007):
 hello
my mom had 2 kids when she was 20 and 8 kids when she was 35 she loved my dad and he loved her we have shaired a dry paese of bread and a cup of tea and some storys .so if you love him and he loves you go ahead and do it dont think of your of your self you are 20 and you and 20*3=60 so this life is to short to not shair it with one that you love.
good luck
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reader, justice123  +, writes (24 March 2007):
let me tell you this you need to tell him babe im not ready for marriage cause marriage dont change nothing but your name unless its real love through the sunshine and the rain its more than a ceremony more than a wedding ring but marriage dont change nothing but your name.
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