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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:hey iv been close with this lad for 2 years now! i like him more and more all the time, iv never felt like this about someone! (i dont know if im in love though) anyways he feels the same, all his m8s say imthe only girl he doesnt play haha! but i cant cope with all the girls he has after him! how can i get over been so jelous, i mean he has alot!! after him even when im with him i have his exs coming up to me trying to scare me off!! :s
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reader, cd206 +, writes (31 January 2007):
 Don't try and scare them off. It makes you look jealous and insecure. If he wanted to be with those girls he would be but he isn't is he? He's with you because he likes you.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (30 January 2007):
 He's chosen YOU out of everyone else that he wants to be with hasn't he? Even his mates are telling you he's "got it bad" so I wouldn't worry about it. You need to trust him here. Jealousy is a very negative emotion and no good can come of it.
Feelings such as jealousy are based on fear and do not come from love at all. Jealousy comes from wanting to possess and wanting to own or have. One cannot own another being or even the mind of another being. One being cannot live for another. Remember that FEAR stands for False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear immobilizes and makes it virtually impossible for people to think effectively because it bypasses the pre frontal cortex and goes directly to your right brain emotional center and is thus not even analyzed first!
Feelings such as guilt and worry are in the same category. See what benefits you could possibly derive from sitting in your favourite chair and contemplating as well as experiencing these feelings intensely for a few hours? None of course because they do not deliver any benefit other than getting you into an even greater state of fear. So you see, that jealousy, guilt, fear and worry all belong in the trash bin because they do not deliver any benefit whatsoever. Love on the other hand will get you to understand and be less fearful. This in turn will make it possible for you to experience joy and bliss.
Remember always: You have a mind, your feelings come from your mind therefore you can control your feelings. In other words, YOU are in charge and nobody else. YOU determine the future. And you become what you THINK. Be careful because the universe will deliver that which you THINK!
Eve
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