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writes:hey aunties and uncles... i need some advice on something that is bothering me... so here goesrecently ive got together with this guy after a long winded journey due to his ex still being in the picture, never the less we've been together for about 6months now and its going brill... however the problem now is the fact that i hate what he does... he's a club promoter in central london... now he loves his job and he earns alot from it... now the problem... he meets so many different girls on a regular basis and they are like preety girls who throw themselves and give it on a plate and that scares me... the worst thing is that he has had a history of cheating... i knw this purly coz i was the other women whilst he was still with his ex... i knw i shud trust him and to a certain extent i do as we both have gone thru alot to be together its just i feel like hes gnna do it again coz he can get it any time due to his job... any advice pleaseee
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reader, epifanatical  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 great answer from Natasia, and i agree with her. You cant predict these things.. It is up to you sweetee.. but to constantly be thinking about it must be driving you further into doubt.. i would let it go and enjoy the fact you both are together and love each other.. ppl can and do change.. i hope in this case your bf has finally chosen his soulmate.. best of luck hunny i hope all works out cheers !!
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reader, Star_07  +, writes (16 September 2008):
 I would have to agree with natasia. No matter who it is, you have to take a "leap of faith" as any relationship is a risk. Since he cheated on someone to be with you, you know there is a possibility that the same could happen to you. This is something for you to decide: Is it worth the risk?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (16 September 2008):
 Ahhh Karma's a high riding bitch,eh?!
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reader, natasia +, writes (16 September 2008):
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and if he loves his job, you have to be a trusting fool and let him do it. If you tell him not to, he will start to feel you are not on his side.
Tricky, but that's the poisoned chalice of being with someone who cheated on someone else to be with you. I know. I did it.
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reader, natasia +, writes (16 September 2008):
If you want to be with him, you have to ignore it. Yes, he could well cheat. Yes, he might. Or he might not. You don't know. That's what you have to live with if you want to be with him. I wouldn't pressurise him. Better that you are lovely and he is with you because he loves you. Forget the rest. If he cheats, it's his business. Telling someone NOT to cheat unfortunately NEVER works. Just ignore it and tell yourself he is with you, and only you. Don't look for trouble.
Or, split up with him because you don't trust him.
Depends how much you like him.
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